Through conditioning we blind ourselves to the best of who we are.  We become untrusting of our inner guidance, too busy, too committed to rules and ideas that, in the end, don’t serve our growth or expand awareness of our purpose. We collude with messages from that internal, mental Border Patrol, that limit our self-expression and access to […]

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Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back.”  While her words can be interpreted in a number of ways, here’s one take… If we go through life only tending to that which is handed to us, […]

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Have you ever asked for feedback? Your request signals a desire to learn about the impact of your actions and make improvements.  While it is absolutely true that you have the right to act on the feedback you receive or ignore it completely, you also should be aware that those who muster up the courage to […]

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Do you feel guilty about seemingly never being able to catch up?  When you’re home at night or away from your desk, are you plagued by negative thoughts about what you’re not getting done?   Harvard Business Review contributor Art Markman says sometimes guilt or shame can motivate us.  But other times, it’s better to let go. How? […]

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In a recent Mind Tools Twitter poll, forty-four percent of respondents said they need to learn how to better manage their expectations about career progression.  For thirty-three percent it was managing expectations about how they’ll be rewarded.   Sometimes our expectations can lead us astray, causing us to become easily frustrated or act in ways that aren’t […]

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Being kind to yourself has a ripple effect at work and at home.  It’s how we build up what we need to face the world.  One of my favorite New York Times columnists, Tim Herrera, reached out to experts for ways to treat yourself with kindness in the new year.  Psychotherapist Emily Roberts says Take more time for […]

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You’re not happy in your job.  You want to go back to school.  You have an idea for a business.  But you’ve made no progress toward the change you believe you want.  The question:  are you really committed?  Test the sincerity of your commitment with a few simple questions.   Is this change something you really want, or something you think you should do?  Is the […]

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Whether you’re focused on how to enhance your self-awareness, solve a problem, take the next step in your ever-evolving quest for personal transformation, professional development, looking for inspiration, or just need to stir your creative juices, you need to get in the flow to generate the right ideas.  Jeffrey Davis says he’s in the business […]

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Steven Cohen, author of “Leading from Within,” says regular meditation maximizes leadership performance by strengthening your capacity in what he calls the four leadership pillars: Build Awareness. Through meditation, you learn how to observe your thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations, without judgment.  Enhanced awareness will help you see situations more clearly, solve problems more readily.   Make Connections with people […]

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According to Author William Bridges, “It isn’t the changes that do you in, it’s the transition.” In the book, Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change,” Dr. Bridges and his wife Susan make a clear distinction between change and transition.   Change is situational, like a new job, a new worksite, new boss or policy.  Transition is the […]

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One of the biggest challenges in achieving success is learning to be uncomfortable.  Whenever we try anything new, we push up against our comfort zone and growing edge.  That’s where our comfort level ends, and where the new and different await. To discover the new, you have to push past your existing mental and emotional boundaries and […]

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Think about something you’ve learned.  For example, how to manage meetings, make effective presentations, write well, play tennis or golf.  How to be a good listener, a great salesperson, teacher, parent or surfer.  Whatever you know how to do today, you’ve learned it by degrees.  I call it learning in layers.  The first layer of […]

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If you feel pulled in the direction of change, begin your planning and preparation with an honest self-assessment. Check in. See if your mind and emotions are aligned with your decision and plans. If there is a gap between what you think and how you feel, you have work to do. Moving ahead without attending […]

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Feeling restless, not quite satisfied, like something is missing or there’s got to be more to work and life than this! You may be ready for a change. Here are four cues that signal it’s time for something new: You’ve stopped learning and growing. You’re not developing new skills and knowledge, yet you feel an […]

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There comes a moment when you know it’s time to leave the comforts of the familiar and move on. You may be ready to move up to the next level, a lateral into a new functional area to broaden your experience base, a leap into a new industry or company where you can apply your […]

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At the beginning of your next meeting, take notice of yourself and others.  Do you or your colleagues enter harried, burdened, rushing, sharing exasperation about how poorly the day is going as you recount details of unusually heavy traffic, subway issues, an incredibly long line at the coffee shop, or frustrations with technology and the lack […]

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How we go about achieving our goals can be as unique as each of us.  That’s why its important to avoid quick-fix solutions.  There are many right ways – not just one.  Figuring out your “right way” is what matters.   First, understand what you want to achieve, why and what your unique process looks like.  Dig into your past […]

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Asking for and getting feedback is hard.  Most people never do it – even though conventional wisdom is that feedback makes us better and helps us achieve our goals.  To get the full advantage of feedback, it’s a good idea to think through the entire process — from asking to implementing. Let’s assume that you’ve asked for […]

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