A standard question asked in job interviews is “What are your strengths and weaknesses?”  How you answer that question can reveal more than what may appear on the surface.   Answering the strengths part is often easy.  You likely have a good sense of what you do well and can express it positively.  But when explaining your weaknesses, rather […]

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While Business Insider’s list of seven things people who’ve hit success milestones by age 35 have mastered isn’t groundbreaking, little reminders are always helpful, no matter your age. It’s okay to ask for advice. Let go of that fear of not having the answers.  The world is complicated and no one knows everything.   Dedicate time every […]

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Harvard Business Review contributors Tony Schwartz and Emily Pines of the Energy Project warn that at all times, we have two selves operating simultaneously.  There’s the self governed by our pre-frontal cortex.  It controls executive brain functions like planning and strategy. It’s calm, measured and rational.  This is the self of which we are most aware.    Our other […]

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At all times, two parts of our brain are governing how we behave.  We’re aware of the rational, deliberate self that is ruled by the prefrontal cortex.  But the threat protector, ruled by the amygdala, reacts beneath the surface causing us to lash out inexplicably.  That self is enabled by the inner lawyer, which rationalizes, deflects and blames.  […]

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Delivering negative feedback or criticism is rarely easy.  Receiving it may be even more difficult.  But researchers at University of Toronto found that how people receive criticism depends greatly on the source.   Through field and lab experiments, they discovered that when negative feedback comes from a boss or a peer, the receiver’s creativity level drops.  The researchers concluded […]

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Many think procrastination comes from laziness or poor time management. But a recent New York Times article lays the blame on the negative emotions we associate with the thing we’re putting off.  Here are two ways experts say we can get to that thing we’re avoiding. Brown University’s Dr. Judson Brewer says you must first tackle the risk/ […]

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What are your thoughts about the idea of being self-made? Recently, I saw a man wearing a t-shirt with the caption, “SELF-MADE!”  It was written in CAPS and seemed to scream at me, emphasizing the point. It got my attention, perhaps because earlier that day a client and I talked about how interdependent we really are. How, alone, […]

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You’re a control freak and you know it.  But you can’t find your way clear of this stressful, energy-stealing frame of mind.  Oprah.com contributor Martha Beck offers 5 tips to help you get comfortable with letting go. Relax your need to relax.  If you’re trying to relax, you’re not actually relaxing. Give yourself permission to be as tense […]

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While conflict is inevitable and can be seen as the healthy manifestation of competition, how we engage during conflict is key.  A little self-awareness can go a long way to help us steer away from behavior that serves no one.  Here are a few well-worn ruts to resist. The “I’m right, you’re wrong” mindset.  A hint that you’re […]

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Confirmation bias is when we seek out information that validates our own point of view.  We tune out everything that doesn’t align with our world view or reinforce our opinions of the people around us.   Confirmation bias closes our hearts and minds to the full truth.   But there are ways to open our minds and learn to […]

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Sometimes opportunities that we weren’t expecting come our way – something that seems like such an unlikely fit, it wasn’t even on our radar.  It may even be something we think we didn’t even want. Your first instinct may be to say thanks, but no thanks.   But, before you do, hear the person out.  Allow them to explain […]

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Living in the present sounds like such a simple goal – unless you’ve tried it.  If you have, you know how difficult fully experiencing NOW can be.  In our professional and personal lives, it seems like a luxury to stop and focus exclusively on what we’re doing right here, right now.  Too often, we devote too much time […]

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Do you allow LIES to limit you? I don’t know anyone who doesn’t. LIES are labels, illusions, excuses and stories that exist in your mind, just out of awareness.  They shape your thoughts, feelings, decisions and actions. LIES lead to detours on your path to happiness.  They short-circuit your ability and willingness to change and grow.  LIES cause you to work […]

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The kind of environment we work in plays a big role in job satisfaction.  Yet, that environment is largely controlled by another person:  your manager, or someone at or near the top of the org chart.  If they’re supportive, job satisfaction soars. Forbes.com says this is especially true for millennials. If you’re one of the people at or […]

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Researchers at University of California, Davis set out to answer an age-old question:  what makes an emotionally healthy person? They looked at what’s called the “big five” personality traits to see where healthy people landed.  Those traits are neuroticism, extraversion, openness to experience, agreeableness and conscientiousness.  They also identified facets of these traits, which added specificity. The experts […]

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According to many experts, we fear public speaking more than we fear death.  But if speeches or presentations aren’t something you can avoid, Fast Company offers these prep tips to help hide anxiety. Pace Yourself.  Avoid rapid-fire delivery by tapping into your natural and comfortable walking rhythm. Before you’re on stage, observe your relaxed pace and try to […]

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Steve Jobs once said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your inner voice.” Through early conditioning, most of us blind ourselves to the best of who we really are. We become untrusting, too busy, too intellectual, too committed to rules […]

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I enjoy this time of year. And, it’s seems many others do, as well. It’s a season of fun-filled gatherings and sharing good wishes. Kindness, warm smiles, fun-filled gatherings and generosity are legitimized in all dimensions of life. Perhaps you and your co-workers are making plans for a luncheon at a local restaurant, a shared […]

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