Many people in our country have been hurt and are hurting for way, way too long.  Yes, wounds are inflicted as people engage in the broader society.  And we have to be honest and say, they’re also inflicted in the workplace…in your workplace.  You, especially if you’re a leader, have the power to make significant, […]

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When you feel stress or anxiety, do you double down by also feeling guilty about it? According to the Harvard Health Blog, that can contribute to poor, long-term psychological health. Contributor Dr. David R Topor sites a study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, which concluded that people who accept feeling bad fare […]

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Have you ever received feedback and wondered, “Where on earth did that come from?” It seems so not like you, hard to believe, downright wrong.  Of course, sometimes, feedback is based on misperception.  And, at other times, it may be a precious gift you don’t want to accept. Feedback that sounds foreign – unlike anything […]

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Many people are dealing with guilt associated with their Coronavirus activities or lack thereof.   According to Mindtools.com, there are two kinds of guilt — healthy and unhealthy – and there are ways to address both.  But first, it’s important to understand what kind of guilt you’re dealing with.   Healthy guilt is proportionate or rational – a reaction […]

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Do You Frequently CC the Boss When Emailing Co-Workers? Does the boss request that she be CC’d to stay in the loop?  Research from the University of Cambridge suggests that this damages trust. To many, copying the boss on emails is a clear signal that you suspect they’ll under deliver. It can feel like a […]

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Do you sometimes find yourself in a high stakes situation, and every thought that comes to mind is about exactly the outcome you DO NOT want?  For example, preparing for an important presentation, you begin imagining the audience asking questions you can’t answer.  Or, you’re planning to ask for a raise you know you deserve, but the […]

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Spirit of Purpose · How To Live A Creative Life Keep Fear From Killing Your Creativity Author Joseph Chilton Pearce said, “To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.” By it’s very nature, creativity is about taking risks. Exploring the unknown can be frightening. Sticking with the status quo may […]

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Maintaining a positive outlook can be difficult. But consciously choosing the focus on the positive can build resilience for difficult times. Harvard Medical School offers these three tips that will help you harness your positive psychology. Express gratitude. Show thankful appreciation for simple things like a roof over your head or having people who care […]

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As we move deeper into Coronavirus-induced isolation, anxiety and fear may threaten the sense of stability and mental health for many of us.  Steven Cohen, co-founder of Meditation for Leadership says, and I agree, now is a good time to embrace meditation. A daily meditation practice can enhance inner awareness of our thoughts and emotions and […]

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As a motivational speaker, I’m often asked how one can overcome the obstacles that keep them from becoming the person they want to be.  One path to overcoming obstacles is to understand what motivates and inspires you.  Then, using that self-knowledge, set up the right conditions that will keep you moving toward your goals.   For instance, if […]

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Through conditioning we blind ourselves to the best of who we are.  We become untrusting of our inner guidance, too busy, too committed to rules and ideas that, in the end, don’t serve our growth or expand awareness of our purpose. We collude with messages from that internal, mental Border Patrol, that limit our self-expression and access to […]

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Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back.”  While her words can be interpreted in a number of ways, here’s one take… If we go through life only tending to that which is handed to us, […]

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Have you ever asked for feedback? Your request signals a desire to learn about the impact of your actions and make improvements.  While it is absolutely true that you have the right to act on the feedback you receive or ignore it completely, you also should be aware that those who muster up the courage to […]

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Do you feel guilty about seemingly never being able to catch up?  When you’re home at night or away from your desk, are you plagued by negative thoughts about what you’re not getting done?   Harvard Business Review contributor Art Markman says sometimes guilt or shame can motivate us.  But other times, it’s better to let go. How? […]

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In a recent Mind Tools Twitter poll, forty-four percent of respondents said they need to learn how to better manage their expectations about career progression.  For thirty-three percent it was managing expectations about how they’ll be rewarded.   Sometimes our expectations can lead us astray, causing us to become easily frustrated or act in ways that aren’t […]

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Being kind to yourself has a ripple effect at work and at home.  It’s how we build up what we need to face the world.  One of my favorite New York Times columnists, Tim Herrera, reached out to experts for ways to treat yourself with kindness in the new year.  Psychotherapist Emily Roberts says Take more time for […]

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You’re not happy in your job.  You want to go back to school.  You have an idea for a business.  But you’ve made no progress toward the change you believe you want.  The question:  are you really committed?  Test the sincerity of your commitment with a few simple questions.   Is this change something you really want, or something you think you should do?  Is the […]

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