A while ago, I came across a quote that stuck with me. It read, “A quiet mind is able to hear intuition over fear.” I stumbled onto this quote at a time when my mind was racing with thoughts of daily life. People were tugging at me from various directions. Internally, I was putting pressure […]

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Change tends to push us out of our comfort zone, which generates fear. But, as Winston Churchill once said, “There is nothing wrong in change, if it is in the right direction. To improve is to change, to be perfect is to have changed often.” What a great reframe! Churchill’s quote reminds us that not […]

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My book LIES That Limit, and much of my work, revolves around the labels, illusions, excuses and stories we tell ourselves. These LIES don’t just keep us from becoming successful, they keep successful people from achieving genuine happiness. When I encounter a client who has reached a breaking point, it’s usually because they have woven and are […]

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One of the behavior patterns I’ve worked on with many leaders is their need to be right and show others that they have all of the answers.  They know more and best. Insisting on being right is alienating. It turns others off. After all, if you’re always right, that automatically makes others wrong. Artist and […]

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 As the year winds down, it’s a good time to think through the ways you’ll make the next year even better. Although every day represents the possibility of a new journey, the new year is widely recognized as an important opportunity to think big and go big.   As Oprah says, “Your journey begins with […]

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Report after report reminds us how important it is to be self-aware. One of the foundational components of Emotional Intelligence, self-awareness enables us to know our triggers, and what it takes for us to open our minds to new and different experiences and people. To become more self-aware, regularly, take a few minutes to connect […]

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Increasingly, I find people are asking me what they can do to become more self-aware. I love to field such questions, because self-awareness is valuable. It’s a key foundation of emotional intelligence. One strategy I often suggest is to focus less on what’s going on around them, and tune in more to what is going […]

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 Forbes.com contributors David Sturt and Todd Nordstrom say that if you think you’re doing great at work, but others around you don’t agree, you may be undermining yourself without realizing it. Here are three surprising ways you might be sabotaging your reputation. You don’t take a breather. Are you constantly flitting about the office, […]

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 If your opinion of your effectiveness at work differs from your co-workers, forbes.com contributors David Sturt and Todd Nordstrom offer six reasons why. Here are three of them. You avoid expressing your opinion. If you’re a “go with the flow” kind of person, your team may see you as someone who doesn’t care enough […]

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We often focus exclusively on education and what we must learn to propel ourselves forward. Continual learning is critical for anyone who values keeping pace with the expectations of today’s business environment. But, just as there is much to learn, there are also many things we must unlearn to make room for real growth and […]

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“Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” Those are the words of Lou Holz, former football player, coach and speaker. They’re also a great jumping off point for self-assessment. Take the time to ask yourself these three questions. Am I using my abilities […]

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According to Merriam Webster, microaggression is defined as “a comment or action that subtly and, often unconsciously or unintentionally, expresses a prejudiced attitude toward a member of a marginalized group.” Often, the action is so subtle and habituated that the perpetrator does it without even realizing it. Microaggressions land hard on the people they’re being […]

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It’s tempting to respond to someone’s angry rant or accusation with something even more incendiary.   But that will only lead to an escalation and move you further away from a resolution. Instead, it’s better to say, “Let’s talk later.”  Then, walk away. You’ll be giving the other person, and yourself, the space to breathe, calm […]

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Addressing performance issues is one of the most challenging aspects of managing people. The conversations are difficult, potentially explosive. Corrective action plans add another layer to your responsibilities and if performance doesn’t improve, a job is lost and moral is threatened. The situation is not only complicated on the surface, but there are hidden forces […]

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It happens to all of us. You’re cruising through your day, then suddenly something completely unexpected happens. The boss springs a new project on you, or an unforeseen crisis occurs with a customer. Anxiety amps up and angst sets in. Here are two truths to soothe your psyche. First, no one is promised a 100% […]

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As a coach for a number of women’s leadership programs, diversity expert Anne Litwin says she encounters women from many cultures who suffer from Imposter Syndrome. She contends that women are more susceptible to the imposter syndrome than men, in part because women from underrepresented groups don’t see others like them in certain industries and […]

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Speaker and business trainer Lou Adler once said, “Good people ask good questions.” People who ask good questions see themselves as learners. They engage with a sense of curiosity, wonder and a willingness to acknowledge that they don’t know everything. Try putting this approach to use at your next meeting with a client, prospect, colleague […]

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The great Zig Ziglar once quipped, “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily.” He is right. Motivation is fleeting. It’s something we call on when we’re pressed against the edges of our comfort zone. To Ziglar’s statement, I add that a steady diet of the […]

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Has this ever happened to you? You meet someone at a networking event, through a colleague or elsewhere. You talk for a bit, then agree to reconnect. But as time passes, you begin to question whether the good vibe you felt was shared by the other person. According to researchers at Cornell and Harvard Universities, […]

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