The great Zig Ziglar said, “A goal properly set is halfway reached.”  Think about that.  If you’ve thought through how to achieve your goals, before you take one action step, you’re well on your way.   Many think the secret to achieving is the doing.  But I agree with Zig.  Without planning, anticipating obstacles and charting a realistic path, the […]

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Have you ever noticed that some days your negative emotions are more easily triggered than other days?  Are you aware of days when you can more easily stop yourself before saying something snarky or otherwise regrettable, and days when it seems you can’t?   It’s a challenge to move from responses that are automatic and unhelpful, to […]

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If you’re sitting at your desk, or standing at your workstation, doing the minimum, hoping the day will end soon, too bad!  You’re dying a slow death, and you’re contributing to the demise of your employer.  Anyone can have a temporary slump.  You just don’t have much energy and, in a way, you don’t even care.  You feel […]

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A recent article from the Society of Human Resource Managers cited excerpts from the book “Extinguish Burnout” by Rob and Terrie Bogue.  Their take is that there are three interconnected components of burn out  —  exhaustion, cynicism and low personal effectiveness.  Being exhausted doesn’t mean we’re burned out.  Often times we feel exhilarated and the most fulfilled when we push […]

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Do you find it difficult to sit down and work through big projects?  It can be hard to get into and stay in the zone — or as Emotional Intelligence expert Daniel Goleman calls it, the Flow?  Here are Productivity and Leadership Coach Ellen Faye’s five ways to get into and stay in your flow. Clearly define […]

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Do you suffer from analysis paralysis?  Do you struggle to make big decisions because the unknown scares you or deciding now feels like too big a commitment?  Here are 3 ways New York Times contributor Susan Shain says you can spend less time agonizing and more time enjoying. Go for Good Enough. Today, we’re assaulted with endless options.  You […]

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During the Q&A, a participant said, “I’m always running late, and I don’t know why. I try to be on time, but it seems like I never am.” Then, she asked, “Why is that?” BIG question…profound question.

The answer appears to be obvious: plan better. Agreed?! Valid perspective; one that probably applies to many of us. But, this answer only scratches the surface. There’s more to uncover.

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Insomnia can do more than make you tired throughout your day.  According to McKinsey and Company, it can impact your cognitive abilities and overall quality of life.  They offer three solutions to help you fall and stay asleep. Read for fun. Select material that has nothing to do with work.  Choose something you’re personally interested in but haven’t had […]

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The learning-to-love-failure movement is a growing one.   New York Times contributor Rachel Simmons writes that accepting failure and moving on takes practice.  She offers three ways to teach yourself how to get up after a disappointment or an outright fiasco.   Simmons advises her Smith College students to ask themselves, “What’s the worst that can happen,”followed by three more […]

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When we believe we’ve failed at something, it’s easy to fall into a pit of despair.  But according to New York Times contributor Rachel Simmons, accepting failure and moving on is a learned behavior.  One way she suggests teaching ourselves to “get over it” is by practicing self compassion. Here’s how. Note how you feel.  Don’t exaggerate or deny […]

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Robert Collier, one of America’s original success authors, said, “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”  While that’s a message I communicate often via Office Talk, it bears repeating.  It’s good to remind ourselves that we can’t do it all at once.  We may not be able to see all the […]

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While Business Insider’s list of seven things people who’ve hit success milestones by age 35 have mastered isn’t groundbreaking, little reminders are always helpful, no matter your age. It’s okay to ask for advice. Let go of that fear of not having the answers.  The world is complicated and no one knows everything.   Dedicate time every […]

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At all times, two parts of our brain are governing how we behave.  We’re aware of the rational, deliberate self that is ruled by the prefrontal cortex.  But the threat protector, ruled by the amygdala, reacts beneath the surface causing us to lash out inexplicably.  That self is enabled by the inner lawyer, which rationalizes, deflects and blames.  […]

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Many think procrastination comes from laziness or poor time management. But a recent New York Times article lays the blame on the negative emotions we associate with the thing we’re putting off.  Here are two ways experts say we can get to that thing we’re avoiding. Brown University’s Dr. Judson Brewer says you must first tackle the risk/ […]

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Procrastination can be a challenge.  Most of us have something we tend to hate doing and, therefore, put off. In a recent New York Timesarticle, Charlotte Lieberman shared insight from several experts on the subject. They surmised that procrastination is not a matter of poor time management or laziness.  Its roots are emotional. Members of the Procrastination Research Group […]

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Researchers at University of California, Davis set out to answer an age-old question:  what makes an emotionally healthy person? They looked at what’s called the “big five” personality traits to see where healthy people landed.  Those traits are neuroticism, extraversion, openness to experience, agreeableness and conscientiousness.  They also identified facets of these traits, which added specificity. The experts […]

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Who’s calling the shots in your life?  The answer may surprise you. The feeling of having lost control over ones time and energy utilization has reached epidemic proportions.  For many, it feels like someone else is in the driver’s seat…your job, your calendar, demands of family life, previous commitments that have taken on a life of their […]

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During this time of year, I feel the urge to purge.  Do you?  I tidy up my desk and all surfaces, clean out drawers and cabinets, clear out files – physical and electronic.  I select books, office supplies and other useful items to donate to good causes. Between now and the start of the New Year, any time, […]

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Increasingly, I find people are asking me what they can do to become more self-aware. I love to field such questions, because self-awareness is valuable. It’s a key foundation of emotional intelligence. One strategy I often suggest is to focus less on what’s going on around them, and tune in more to what is going […]

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