Forbes.com contributor Mark Murphy says that about 25% of the population are intuitive communicators.  They prefer knowing the big picture and getting to the bottom line, quickly.  Intuitive communicators enjoy a disproportionately high representation among senior leaders.    To test whether you’re an intuitive communicator, Murphy says to think back on a recent conversation and ask yourself three […]

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When you’re asked to give someone feedback, does it put you on edge?  Even when the request is made with genuine openness, do you feel afraid of being perceived as overly critical and being rejected because of what you share?  Trust me, you’re not alone.   Giving feedback is a scary proposition for most people.  Fear about giving feedback […]

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In a recent Forbes.com article, Travis Bradberry listed and explained 13 powerful psychological forces that make us do bad things.  This list can help us become more self-aware and it may also help us better understand the people around us.  Those with whom we live, work and play.  First, the winner-take-all competition— something our society encourages, but it […]

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Good self-awareness includes knowing how invisible, powerful forces can lead to making bad, unethical choices.  Forbes.com contributor Travis Bradberry recently shared some of these outside-of-our-awareness influences and how they can affect us. The compensation effect. Using good deeds to justify bad ones. If people perform the acts of a good person, they might feel justified in sometimes behaving […]

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Conflict is natural and inevitable. Our comfort level with addressing it determines our response and the outcome.  Here are 11 tips for making it constructive, from Executive Coach Helen Baxter-Southworth and team dynamics expert Russ Forrester. Move toward conflict, not away from it.   Deal with conflict openly and above board, not behind the scenes.   Surface the conflict […]

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Harvard Business Review contributors Tony Schwartz and Emily Pines of the Energy Project warn that at all times, we have two selves operating simultaneously.  There’s the self governed by our pre-frontal cortex.  It controls executive brain functions like planning and strategy. It’s calm, measured and rational.  This is the self of which we are most aware.    Our other […]

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At all times, two parts of our brain are governing how we behave.  We’re aware of the rational, deliberate self that is ruled by the prefrontal cortex.  But the threat protector, ruled by the amygdala, reacts beneath the surface causing us to lash out inexplicably.  That self is enabled by the inner lawyer, which rationalizes, deflects and blames.  […]

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Procrastination can be a challenge.  Most of us have something we tend to hate doing and, therefore, put off. In a recent New York Timesarticle, Charlotte Lieberman shared insight from several experts on the subject. They surmised that procrastination is not a matter of poor time management or laziness.  Its roots are emotional. Members of the Procrastination Research Group […]

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Didn’t get that promotion or great job for which you had applied?  New York Times Smarter Living Editor Tim Herrera says it’s okay to feel bad about it, but don’t get stuck there. Here are some ways he says you can reframe and grow. Stop obsessing about “what if” by writing down three things that recently […]

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As a leader, it’s okay to admit that you have feelings.  Sometimes it’s even good to share those feelings with your team.  But the Harvard Business Reviewsays there’s a thin line between showing you’re vulnerable and over sharing.  Here are five ways to manage yourself. Figure yourself out.  Learn to recognize the signs that it’s time to hit the emotional […]

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In an HR Magazine Q&A with Edward Hess, co-author of “Humility is the New Smart, Rethinking Human Excellence in the Smart Machine Age,” says, how well employees learn continuously and relate to others will become the great differentiator.   He points to increasing automation and cheap — or often free — access to information.  He says that the traditional […]

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The kind of environment we work in plays a big role in job satisfaction.  Yet, that environment is largely controlled by another person:  your manager, or someone at or near the top of the org chart.  If they’re supportive, job satisfaction soars. Forbes.com says this is especially true for millennials. If you’re one of the people at or […]

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Researchers at University of California, Davis set out to answer an age-old question:  what makes an emotionally healthy person? They looked at what’s called the “big five” personality traits to see where healthy people landed.  Those traits are neuroticism, extraversion, openness to experience, agreeableness and conscientiousness.  They also identified facets of these traits, which added specificity. The experts […]

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I bet you still have parties, dinners, drinks and drop-bys on your holiday social calendar. Whether it’s a company-sponsored event, a colleague-hosted gathering, or a party with family and friends, put your best foot forward. Steer clear of “too many” and “too much.” Too many bad jokes. Too much heated political debate. Too many misplaced […]

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One of the behavior patterns I’ve worked on with many leaders is their need to be right and show others that they have all of the answers.  They know more and best. Insisting on being right is alienating. It turns others off. After all, if you’re always right, that automatically makes others wrong. Artist and […]

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Report after report reminds us how important it is to be self-aware. One of the foundational components of Emotional Intelligence, self-awareness enables us to know our triggers, and what it takes for us to open our minds to new and different experiences and people. To become more self-aware, regularly, take a few minutes to connect […]

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Increasingly, I find people are asking me what they can do to become more self-aware. I love to field such questions, because self-awareness is valuable. It’s a key foundation of emotional intelligence. One strategy I often suggest is to focus less on what’s going on around them, and tune in more to what is going […]

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When it comes to the genuinely confident, their journey is one of satisfaction and – yes – better pay.   That’s according to Dr. Travis Bradberry, co-author of “Emotional Intelligence 2.0.” He says genuinely confident people earn more and are promoted more quickly. Part of their success comes from their ability to look within for inspiration. […]

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Do you feel bombarded by information and opinions? Are you overwhelmed by the media, colleagues, friends, family, and sometimes total strangers imposing their point of view on you? We’re told how to think and feel about work, our wardrobe, our weight, the company we keep, politics, our extracurricular activities, and so on. Amidst the noise, […]

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 Are you struggling to stay positive in what may feel like a negative world? Negative energy can manifest itself in damaging ways that we don’t always recognize. Here are some suggestions that might help you turn that negative energy into something more positive. If you’re engaged in a contentious conversation, avoid being critical of […]

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