In a recent TED Talk, Melinda Epler suggests that we can all become allies and supporters of co-workers who are the victims of microaggression. Epler, who helps tech companies address diversity and inclusion issues, advocates for allyship at work for people who are being marginalized through microaggression. She says that when someone interrupts another, […]

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It’s tempting to respond to someone’s angry rant or accusation with something even more incendiary.   But that will only lead to an escalation and move you further away from a resolution. Instead, it’s better to say, “Let’s talk later.”  Then, walk away. You’ll be giving the other person, and yourself, the space to breathe, calm […]

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It happens to all of us. You’re cruising through your day, then suddenly something completely unexpected happens. The boss springs a new project on you, or an unforeseen crisis occurs with a customer. Anxiety amps up and angst sets in. Here are two truths to soothe your psyche. First, no one is promised a 100% […]

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 In Sara Fabian’s Success.com article, “7 Life Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner,” she shares her seven truths, beginning with: Loving my whole self – mind, body and soul – is not selfish. Rather, it’s necessary for a healthy life. Perfection is pure fiction. She quotes John C. Maxwell, who said “Sometimes we win, sometimes […]

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 Clients often ask me about proven ways to develop themselves. They want to grow as people and be more skillful and emotionally intelligent when they engage with others. If you’re interested in growing in these areas, I recommend exploring Core Energetics. Core Energetics will help you enhance self-awareness, increase your ability to self-regulate and […]

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How many times a day are you asked, “How are you?” What’s your reply? For most of us, it’s, “Fine. Good. Ok. Pretty good.” What if you considered the standard greeting, “How are you,” an opportunity to initiate contact and start a dialogue? Would you then consider responding in a way that’s novel, yet sincere? […]

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Negative thought spirals can hijack our ability to power through situations we perceive as difficult. Forbes.com contributor Alice Walton offers some new ways to beat back those debilitating voices in our heads that make our fears feel real and infuse doubt. In addition to meditation and mindfulness, Walton recommends Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It sounds intense, […]

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Are you riding the wave that life has placed under you? Or are you consciously choosing a life that is personally meaningful and fulfilling. If you’re content being carried along by forces seemingly beyond your control, then stay the course. But, if you’re depressed, anxious, struggling to find happiness and purpose, your life is calling […]

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“To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.” Within these words by Henry David Thoreau, I find an undeniable truth about consciously choosing to think positively. So, I’m asking you: what thoughts are occupying valuable space in your mind?  Do you […]

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Let Conscious Choice — Not Emotion — Drive Your Actions When things go wrong, what do you focus on? Identifying who made the mistake or whose fault it was? Do you obsess about the weak link in the chain? Or do you use your finite energy to craft a solution? I’m sure you can guess […]

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 These Simple Steps Can Change Your Perspective Some people are fortunate; they find meaning in the work that they do. Others have to dig a little deeper to experience a sense of significance in their everyday tasks. If that sounds like you, here are four ways you can find greater meaning at work — […]

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Your First Instincts Can Steer You Wrong In a recent interview, Princeton Professor Betsy Levy Paluck made a case for not fully trusting your first instincts. “We rush to simplify,” she said, drawing boundaries around our team and trying to make sense of a situation by justifying what’s right for ourselves. In such moments, our […]

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Looking for A Way to Avoid Telling Someone Where to Go? When I walked into his office, Will’s head was down, his brow looked furrowed, he was breathing deeply and writing furiously. I waited until he finished and asked, “What are you working on?” “I’m writing out my rage!” He smiled, pushed his pad aside […]

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Are you in tune with yourself – your thoughts and feelings?  Do you know what triggers a positive reaction from you?  Do you know what makes you smile or offer an affirming nod?  How about what elicits feelings of compassion, or what compels you to make eye contact that expresses warmth and encouragement? Can you […]

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  >>Click here for Harvard’s online Implicit Assumption Test.<< Undo Your Brain’s Natural Tendency to Make Snap Judgments Science now confirms that you only get one chance to make a first impression. That impression takes hold more quickly than you might think. Psychologist and neuroscientist Dr. Bastian Schiller and researchers in Switzerland have discovered that […]

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Always Choose To Use Your Discretionary Power Positively People notice how you use your discretionary power. By that, I mean how you choose to provide, or not provide, high quality service. Or the attitude with which you choose to respond to a colleague’s requests. It’s human nature to base everything, from buying decisions to who […]

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Trust Your Aha Moments A team of international researchers, including Drexel’s Dr. John Kounios, have discovered that “Aha moments” often yield the right answers. They suggest that analytical thinking may be best when there are known strategies for arriving at solutions – like in arithmetic. But when there is no set path to a solution, […]

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What Motivates People If you’re a manager, you are called on regularly to motivate others. Being a successful leader relies on your ability to help others perform well.  Traditionally, we use the carrot and stick approach.  We bribe people with money or other incentives.  But, once the incentive goes away, so does the drive to […]

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