My book, LIES That Limit, makes it clear that mindset – what we believe, how we think – is everything. Mindset is the composite of our beliefs and assumptions – our theory about life, other people, even ourselves. We feel safe when we make choices consistent with our story about the way things are. Yet, […]
Read More →Looking for A Way to Avoid Telling Someone Where to Go? When I walked into his office, Will’s head was down, his brow looked furrowed, he was breathing deeply and writing furiously. I waited until he finished and asked, “What are you working on?” “I’m writing out my rage!” He smiled, pushed his pad aside […]
Read More →Newly Discovered Benefits of Generosity A researcher in Switzerland has proven something some of us already knew. Generous people are happier. Those who are concerned about the well-being of their fellow human are happier than those who focus only on their own advancement. You don’t have to be a self-sacrificing martyr to get happy. Professor […]
Read More →There May Be No Such Thing As A Selfless Act Many people see volunteering as an act that benefits the people and programs they serve. But, ironically, what appears to be selfless giving has proven to be beneficial to the giver. Several research projects have shown that volunteers themselves exhibit improved psychological well-being as a […]
Read More →Summer is a great time to catch up on recreational reading. But it’s also the perfect time to make progress toward life goals with books that nurture your inner coach. Here are a few of my favorites: Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life, by Dr. Martin Seligman. He provides tools to […]
Read More →Anxious? Depressed? Frustrated? Write It Out. Journaling is a highly effective tool for many reasons. It can help put a challenging situation into perspective. It can help you work through your fear, anxiety and relationship issues. Best of all, it’s private and it’s free. To get started, all you need is a notebook and a […]
Read More →Unlock the Hidden Forces That Are Working Against You Childhood experiences still shape the way we react to the world. That’s even true at work. Things that hurt us as children, and the methods we developed to cope, are foundational to our world view. They affect the way we deal with people and situations that […]
Read More →Albert Einstein once said, “You can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it.” There are many ways to transform your mind – some are legal, some are not. But more and more, executives and business leaders are turning to Yoga and meditation to boost their on-the-job performance. These practices are moving from […]
Read More →How to Turn Conflict Into Something Positive Conflict at work is something most people rather avoid. But some experts believe conflict is actually healthy. According to HR Magazine’s Dori Meinert, conflict can actually spark innovation and creativity. She cites the work of former psychologist and author Nate Regier, who says conflict is the energy created […]
Read More →4 Steps That Will Help You Address Bias Safely It’s not easy to speak up when someone says or does something that you believe reveals negative bias. Yet, you become complicit in unwanted behavior if you don’t speak up. A recent Harvard Business Review article suggests taking these steps to address bias without offending others. Use […]
Read More →5 Simple Tips When You’re Starting Out Making a good first impression is important when you start a new job. It sets the stage for how others will interact with you long-term. WorkingMother.com’s Emily Green offers these suggestions for standing out in a good way from the very beginning. Dress to impress. Don’t push the limits […]
Read More →Is Your Job A Good Match For Your Personality? While we can learn how to do just about anything, personality factors play a prominent role in determining what we do best most easily. In the 1950’s, Oregon Research Institute’s Lewis Goldberg created “The Big Five” personality model. Mindtools.com says his work remains relevant. I agree. […]
Read More →Negative Emotions Provide Important Data Life is filled with situations that evoke strong emotions, yet we’ve been conditioned to pretend everything is okay. In most workplaces, the expectation is that we behave professionally and avoid reacting based on emotion. But Susan David, author of “Emotional Agility,” reminds us that ignoring negative emotions shuts us off […]
Read More →The 15-Second Soft Eyes Challenge When you look at yourself, what goes on inside you? What are your thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations and reactions? What do you say to yourself about what you see? Do you look deeply or do you barely glance? We tend NOT to look at ourselves – and as a result, […]
Read More →Are You Really As Busy As You Say You Are? When asked how you are, do you launch into explaining how crazy busy or overwhelmed you are? Do you proudly tick off reasons you don’t have a minute to catch your breath and relax? It may be time to stop and ask yourself if your busyness […]
Read More →Simple Way To Use Nature As A Relaxation Tool Researchers at the University of Sussex in England have proof that the sounds of nature promote relaxation and wellbeing. They discovered that the brain reacts differently to man-made sounds than it does to natural sounds found in the outdoors. How can you put that to use […]
Read More →When it comes to decision-making, do you procrastinate? Do you weigh the pros and cons, over and over, again? Do you hesitate in an approach-avoidance dance? If you do, you’re not alone. Many people fear making the wrong decision, so they make no decision at all. According to “Psychology Today,” Emotional procrastination starts with the […]
Read More →Always Choose To Use Your Discretionary Power Positively People notice how you use your discretionary power. By that, I mean how you choose to provide, or not provide, high quality service. Or the attitude with which you choose to respond to a colleague’s requests. It’s human nature to base everything, from buying decisions to who […]
Read More →Successful People Embrace And Learn From Failure Arianna Huffington says, “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes. Understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.” Appreciating the rewards of failure is something that sets achievers apart from people who allow fear […]
Read More →Unconscious Use of These Speech Patterns Could Be Undermining You We pick up language patterns from the people we live and work with. As a result, habits that lessen our credibility are hardly noticeable to our own ear. Good speaking skills aren’t just for the podium. The way we communicate, moment-to-moment, influences how people perceive […]
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