Change is a challenging process. 1. You can’t stop it – it’s inevitable. 2. When change is afoot, the status quo is no longer relevant – it just doesn’t work. 3. New ways of thinking, feeling and behaving are required. Here are a several tips to help you navigate and lead others through the process. […]

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The next time you have a difference of opinion with someone, before beginning an argument or concluding they’re wrong or crazy, practice the skill of Inquiry.  Inquiry is a respectful way of probing in order to better understand another’s reasoning and can help you avoid drawing faulty conclusions based on false assumptions about what’s going […]

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  Change is a challenging process.  1.  You can’t stop it – it’s inevitable. 2.  When change is afoot, the status quo is no longer relevant – it just doesn’t work.  3. New ways of thinking, feeling and behaving are required. Here are a several tips to help you navigate and lead others through the […]

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If you tend to play it safe, not acting until perfection is certain and the probability of failure zero, Dr. Marilyn Tam may rock your world. The author of How to Use What You’ve Got to Get What You Want, Dr. Tam offers valuable career advice, including one surprising idea.  She encourages BIG mistakes because, to […]

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  Happiness researcher, Shawn Achor, says email can make a difference in the quality and length of your life.  No kidding!  He suggests taking two minutes each day to write and send an email to another person – a direct report, a colleague, your boss, a customer, a supplier, a friend or family member – […]

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  Creating a satisfying and successful professional and personal life requires active awareness and conscious choices. Ask yourself, “What are my values…what’s most important to me right now?  What are my priorities…where do I now want to put my time and attention?  What one step can I take to move in that direction?”  Reflecting on […]

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              David Robinson, former center for the San Antonio Spurs and Admiral Capital Group Partner, says his philosophy is, “Do everything in the right frame of mind.”  Great advice for every leader, parent, person.  Analyzing, deciding, communicating and acting, all when you’re in the right frame of mind, will […]

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          Abraham Maslow’s approach to psychology was unique.  He studied people who were psychologically healthy, living and performing at their peak.  He called them self-actualizers.  See how many strengths of self-actualized people you possess: Live in the present moment, the now, not the past or future.  Self and other accepting.  Spontaneous.  […]

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When unwanted results show up, and they always do, where do you put your energy and attention?  On the problem or the solution? If you’re like the majority of people, in your personal and professional life, the things you don’t want end up captivating you.  You think about them.  Talk about them.  Wrestle with them.  […]

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Do you have the same mindset as Earvin “Magic” Johnson?  He says, “I am a businessman. This is what I do each and every day. I love it. I love coming to work. I never have a bad day.” Do you feel the same way?  Do you love your work?  Daily, do you get up and […]

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I meet a fair number of business leaders who say they are empathy-challenged.  Empathy is the ability to recognize and identify the emotions being experienced by another person.  It’s one of the five components of Emotional Intelligence.  Because it enables others to feel like you connect with them, it is an important skill set for […]

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I meet a fair number of business leaders who say they are empathy-challenged.  Empathy is the ability to recognize and identify the emotions being experienced by another person.  It’s one of the five components of Emotional Intelligence.  Because it enables others to feel like you connect with them, it is an important skill set for […]

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Beyond the usual office party advice, like not embarrassing yourself by drinking too much, dressing too provocatively or hooking up with a co-worker, here’s an updated list of things to consider for the 2013 office party season. 1) Avoid embarrassing or unprofessional poses.  Yes…that’s an old one that conjures up images of butts on Xerox […]

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When I walked into his office, Will’s head was down, his brow looked furrowed, his chest was noticeably rising and falling, indicative of deep breathing, and he was writing furious. I waited until he finished and asked, “What are you working on?” “I’m writing out my rage!”  He smiled, pushed his pad aside and explained, […]

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Dear Teressa, Could you please provide tips to stay grounded and focused despite being surrounded by people who aren’t?  Also how can I cultivate and encourage a friend’s talent without over stepping boundaries? Lilliana   Dear Lilliana, Years of experience suggests that being grounded – with balanced physical, mental and emotional energy and attention focused […]

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Whether I’m watching Serena Williams, Roger Federer, Tiger Woods, Phil Mickelson, Tom Brady, Cole Hamels or Michael Vick, I notice how they do what they do – the mechanical and mental aspects of their performance. An important lesson – one many of us can learn from – is the resilience of those at the top […]

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Every week, the content of my blog is based on a real-life scenarios – ones I’ve experienced as a facilitator, executive and personal growth coach, keynote speaker, as well as a manager and leader. Unresolved challenges at work and in life often get in the way of productivity and personal satisfaction. They cause us to question ourselves and the value of contributions we make.  Issues at work also […]

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Recently I heard a quote that got right to the heart of conflict and how to resolve it.  I’m paraphrasing, but it was along the lines of “conflict does not rise out of a clash of good and bad, it rises out of a clash of good and good.”  In other words, each conflicting party […]

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One of my favorite comic strips is set in a bookstore.  In one corner of the store, there is a section with a sign that reads, “Self Help. ” Right next to it, there’s a sign for the “Fixing Others” section.  The “Self-Help” section has one person in it while the “Fixing Others” section is […]

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