When we believe we’ve failed at something, it’s easy to fall into a pit of despair. But according to New York Times contributor Rachel Simmons, accepting failure and moving on is a learned behavior. One way she suggests teaching ourselves to “get over it” is by practicing self compassion. Here’s how.
- Note how you feel. Don’t exaggerate or deny any of your emotions. Instead, connect with your actual feelings. Maybe you’re embarrassed or scared – or both. That does not mean your career or life is over.
- Remind yourself that you’re not alone. Whatever mistake you’ve made, you’re not the first person nor the last to make it. Humans make mistakes.
- Imagine what you’d say to a friend in a similar situation. Then direct those kind words to yourself. You’d likely be compassionate, supportive and encouraging to someone you cared about. Replace your negative self-talk with the same sentiments you’d offer to lift up another.