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When we believe we’ve failed at something, it’s easy to fall into a pit of despair.  But according to New York Times contributor Rachel Simmons, accepting failure and moving on is a learned behavior.  One way she suggests teaching ourselves to “get over it” is by practicing self compassion. Here’s how.

• Note how you feel.  Don’t exaggerate or deny any of your emotions. Instead, connect with your actual feelings.  Maybe you’re embarrassed or scared – or both.  That does not mean your career or life is over.  
• Remind yourself that you’re not alone.  Whatever mistake you’ve made, you’re not the first person nor the last to make it.  Humans make mistakes.
• Imagine what you’d say to a friend in a similar situation.  Then direct those kind words to yourself.  You’d likely be compassionate, supportive and encouraging to someone you cared about.  Replace your negative self-talk with the same sentiments you’d offer to lift up another. 

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