At all times, two parts of our brain are governing how we behave.  We’re aware of the rational, deliberate self that is ruled by the prefrontal cortex.  But the threat protector, ruled by the amygdala, reacts beneath the surface causing us to lash out inexplicably.  That self is enabled by the inner lawyer, which rationalizes, deflects and blames.  […]

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Many think procrastination comes from laziness or poor time management. But a recent New York Times article lays the blame on the negative emotions we associate with the thing we’re putting off.  Here are two ways experts say we can get to that thing we’re avoiding. Brown University’s Dr. Judson Brewer says you must first tackle the risk/ […]

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Procrastination can be a challenge.  Most of us have something we tend to hate doing and, therefore, put off. In a recent New York Timesarticle, Charlotte Lieberman shared insight from several experts on the subject. They surmised that procrastination is not a matter of poor time management or laziness.  Its roots are emotional. Members of the Procrastination Research Group […]

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Researchers at University of California, Davis set out to answer an age-old question:  what makes an emotionally healthy person? They looked at what’s called the “big five” personality traits to see where healthy people landed.  Those traits are neuroticism, extraversion, openness to experience, agreeableness and conscientiousness.  They also identified facets of these traits, which added specificity. The experts […]

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Who’s calling the shots in your life?  The answer may surprise you. The feeling of having lost control over ones time and energy utilization has reached epidemic proportions.  For many, it feels like someone else is in the driver’s seat…your job, your calendar, demands of family life, previous commitments that have taken on a life of their […]

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During this time of year, I feel the urge to purge.  Do you?  I tidy up my desk and all surfaces, clean out drawers and cabinets, clear out files – physical and electronic.  I select books, office supplies and other useful items to donate to good causes. Between now and the start of the New Year, any time, […]

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Increasingly, I find people are asking me what they can do to become more self-aware. I love to field such questions, because self-awareness is valuable. It’s a key foundation of emotional intelligence. One strategy I often suggest is to focus less on what’s going on around them, and tune in more to what is going […]

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 How do you approach the end of your workday – when your energy is low there’s not enough time to start a new project? Do you surf social media, aimlessly finger through things on your desk, or scroll through emails to which you don’t intend to reply. Well, Fast Company has suggestions for making […]

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Are you plagued by a task that you know you must do, but just can’t bring yourself to complete? That email you need to write? That call you have to make? That conversation you’ve been putting off?  You’re not alone. No matter how on top of things you are, there are still times when you […]

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In a recent blog post titled, “The World’s Worst Boss,” Seth Godin reminded us that we are our own bosses.  We’re in charge of all aspects of our lives.  The post prodding readers with statements like, “If you had a boss who talked to you the way you talk to yourself, you would quit.  Or […]

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