According to Merriam Webster, microaggression is defined as “a comment or action that subtly and, often unconsciously or unintentionally, expresses a prejudiced attitude toward a member of a marginalized group.” Often, the action is so subtle and habituated that the perpetrator does it without even realizing it. Microaggressions land hard on the people they’re being […]
Read More →It’s tempting to respond to someone’s angry rant or accusation with something even more incendiary. But that will only lead to an escalation and move you further away from a resolution. Instead, it’s better to say, “Let’s talk later.” Then, walk away. You’ll be giving the other person, and yourself, the space to breathe, calm […]
Read More →Addressing performance issues is one of the most challenging aspects of managing people. The conversations are difficult, potentially explosive. Corrective action plans add another layer to your responsibilities and if performance doesn’t improve, a job is lost and moral is threatened. The situation is not only complicated on the surface, but there are hidden forces […]
Read More →It happens to all of us. You’re cruising through your day, then suddenly something completely unexpected happens. The boss springs a new project on you, or an unforeseen crisis occurs with a customer. Anxiety amps up and angst sets in. Here are two truths to soothe your psyche. First, no one is promised a 100% […]
Read More →As a coach for a number of women’s leadership programs, diversity expert Anne Litwin says she encounters women from many cultures who suffer from Imposter Syndrome. She contends that women are more susceptible to the imposter syndrome than men, in part because women from underrepresented groups don’t see others like them in certain industries and […]
Read More →Speaker and business trainer Lou Adler once said, “Good people ask good questions.” People who ask good questions see themselves as learners. They engage with a sense of curiosity, wonder and a willingness to acknowledge that they don’t know everything. Try putting this approach to use at your next meeting with a client, prospect, colleague […]
Read More →The great Zig Ziglar once quipped, “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily.” He is right. Motivation is fleeting. It’s something we call on when we’re pressed against the edges of our comfort zone. To Ziglar’s statement, I add that a steady diet of the […]
Read More →A coaching client whose husband was teaching their son how to drive, told me a story that reinforces an important fact. She said, one day, as her husband, once again, admonished their son for not using his right turn signal, their son pulled over, stopped the car, looked his dad in the eyes and said, […]
Read More →Has this ever happened to you? You meet someone at a networking event, through a colleague or elsewhere. You talk for a bit, then agree to reconnect. But as time passes, you begin to question whether the good vibe you felt was shared by the other person. According to researchers at Cornell and Harvard Universities, […]
Read More → Success.com contributor Sara Fabian’s article, “7 Life Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner,” puts things we stress out about into perspective. Fabian, a woman’s career and empowerment coach, says she herself struggled with low self-esteem. She didn’t see herself as beautiful, smart or good enough, so, she took matters into her own hands. She […]
Read More →Each of us is motivated by something different. For some people, it’s money. Others love the attention their accomplishments draw. There are those who get a thrill from the chase, or the heart pounding excitement of facing down fear. Still others achieve because they want to impress others, or at least not disappoint them. Each […]
Read More → In Sara Fabian’s Success.com article, “7 Life Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner,” she shares her seven truths, beginning with: Loving my whole self – mind, body and soul – is not selfish. Rather, it’s necessary for a healthy life. Perfection is pure fiction. She quotes John C. Maxwell, who said “Sometimes we win, sometimes […]
Read More →As more and more companies allow employees to work remotely, chances are you may have the opportunity to do so. FlexJobs.com recommends asking yourself three questions before you say, “Yes.” Why do you want to work from home? Do you want to work in your pajamas and conduct business from bed? If so, you’re not […]
Read More →In one of author Alan Zimmerman’s blogs called “Tuesday Tips,” he quotes Psychologist Jack Berg, who said, “the human mind reaches for understanding like a flower for the sun.” Zimmerman believes people yearn to be understood, and without understanding, we drive a wedge between others and us. Take that idea of people yearning to be […]
Read More →One of the core messages in my book, LIES That Limit, and when I speak, is to follow your sense of purpose and allow it to guide your life. But, you and I don’t have a single purpose. In a TedTalk, Career Coach Emilie Wapnick introduces the concept of the “multipotentialite.” These are people with […]
Read More → A recent New York Times article explored ways our peers influence us. The article contends that if we surround ourselves with positive people who are committed to healthy lifestyles and who support each other, we are more likely to behave similarly. In Okinawa, Japan, these kinds of communities are set up deliberately. And it’s […]
Read More → One thing we all have in common is that at some point, we will face obstacles. We will be tempted to turn back, negating the progress we’ve made. Yet, within each of us is the capacity to persevere. We, each of us, find that strength in different ways and places. Success.com contributor John Addison […]
Read More → Success.com contributor Tom Bilyeu offers tips on how to up-end our human tendency to be critical of self and others. He encourages us to recognize our triggers and choose our reactions. For example, replace the tendency to criticize with compliments. Why? Because criticism doesn’t work so well in interpersonal relationships. So, resist the tendency […]
Read More →I Googled the term “Self Awareness” and got 300,000 search results. It’s a term that gets thrown around quite a bit. But, like many phrases that are tossed about in every day language, the actual meaning is lost on some. People may nod in agreement when they hear it, but do they really know what it means to be self-aware? Do you really know what it means? According to all-knowing, all-seeing Wikipedia, “Self-awareness is […]
Read More →Philosopher William James said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” Thoughts and emotions are tied to one another. Just thinking about something generates an emotional reaction, which triggers similar thoughts and emotions. This loop can send us spiraling downward in ways that are seemingly out of our […]
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