Do you apologize for everything? For mistakes others make? For expressing an opinion that might be unpopular? For walking into a room? Do you take the blame for things that have nothing to do with you? Or when something is clearly someone else’s fault? If you over-apologize, you’re not alone. For women, it’s very common […]
Read More →Are you busy – perhaps so busy those looking in would say you’re over-functioning? To nearly any request that comes your way, do you say, “Yes?” Do you take care of others to the point they regularly look to you to do what they really could do themselves? Overwhelmed and stressed, at the end of your […]
Read More →Do you ever feel like you’re not really competent, but everyone else is? Do you sometimes feel like you’re acting as if you belong, but you don’t. Figure that it won’t be long until you’re found out? When others praise your work or compliment you, do you doubt their sincerity or feel like the recognition […]
Read More →Do you have the same mindset as Earvin “Magic” Johnson? He says, “I am a businessman. This is what I do each and every day. I love it. I love coming to work. I never have a bad day.” Do you feel the same way? Do you love your work? Daily, do you get up […]
Read More →In the UK, they dubbed it “Fail Friday.” Friday, January 24th was the day they predicted the Brit’s collective willpower would wain and resolutions would be broken. Only 3 percent, the “Independent” article says, are likely to keep their resolutions for the entire year. In Canada, CTV’s story “Making, Breaking New Year’s Resolutions an Annual […]
Read More →Dear Teressa, My boss is an excellent manager and a very inspirational leader. However, I have a colleague, who I think is a good person, but who seems to very much resent this boss. This colleague is also very good friends with my boss’s boss. The colleague is now making life very difficult and taking […]
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Read More →Experts say the reason people throw temper tantrums into adulthood is because they work. This frightening behavior gets the tantrum thrower exactly what they want – even if it is at the cost of co-workers or workplace civility. The first step to taking the sting out of another’s workplace tantrum – whether it’s your […]
Read More →I meet a fair number of business leaders who say they are empathy-challenged. Empathy is the ability to recognize and identify the emotions being experienced by another person. It’s one of the five components of Emotional Intelligence. Because it enables others to feel like you connect with them, it is an important skill set for […]
Read More →This year, Today Show’s Natalie Morales said her 2014 resolution is to live in the present. She said it so fast, that I’m not sure she even took it seriously. Living in the present sounds like such a simple goal – unless you’ve tried to achieve it. If you have, you know how difficult fully […]
Read More →For nearly everyone, there comes a moment when you know it’s time to make a move. You may be ready to move up to the next level, make a lateral move into a new functional area to broaden your experience, jump into a new industry or company and apply your skills, or do something entirely […]
Read More →Hi Teressa, I am a 50-year-old senior manager for a Big 4 accounting firm. After almost 10 years with my current employer, I recently learned that my position with the company is being eliminated and I now find myself back in the market trying to find a new job and competing with folks that are […]
Read More →The holiday office party offers a unique opportunity for employees to bond with each other and people higher up in the company in ways they can’t during the work day. It can be more than an opportunity to “let your hair down.” Company parties are a great time to make an impression that can impact […]
Read More →Beyond the usual office party advice, like not embarrassing yourself by drinking too much, dressing too provocatively or hooking up with a co-worker, here’s an updated list of things to consider for the 2013 office party season. 1) Avoid embarrassing or unprofessional poses. Yes…that’s an old one that conjures up images of butts on Xerox […]
Read More →Dear Teressa, Any advice on how I can get more people to speak up in my meetings? ~John V. John, I’m glad to hear that you’re a leader who wants more voices in the conversation – more people engaged and contributing. Here are several strategies that have worked for a number of my clients. […]
Read More →I’m a manager in a large company with 15 direct reports. Sometimes, I have trouble figuring out how to handle certain performance problems. How do I figure out what to do? ~D.G. Dear D.G., Here are a few “how to” pointers for your consideration. As you weigh various options, remember to make use of […]
Read More →Dear Teressa, My boyfriend was a top performer at his company and was recently laid off! This news has been very painful for him and has affected our relationship in many ways. I am trying to keep him motivated, provide support and get him to move on with his life. Can you provide me tips […]
Read More →Dear Teressa, With many demanding priorities, it is sometimes difficult to distinguish one’s real purpose from the demands of life. Even with great desire to know and understand my purpose, it feels as though I am desperately seeking the proverbial needle in the haystack. ~Jenny Dear Jenny, The tug of war you captured is so familiar. […]
Read More →Dear Teressa, Could you please provide tips to stay grounded and focused despite being surrounded by people who aren’t? Also how can I cultivate and encourage a friend’s talent without over stepping boundaries? Lilliana Dear Lilliana, Years of experience suggests that being grounded – with balanced physical, mental and emotional energy and attention focused […]
Read More →Dear Teressa, I currently work part time in education and I absolutely LOVE IT!!! But I’m working a full time job I totally dislike. How does a single mother with two children, break into a career that she absolutely loves, even after exhausting her “network,” applying to numerous jobs in the education field, extremely active on […]
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