The Struggle Is Real Fear of failure is pretty widely accepted as a real thing. But its lesser-known counterpart, “fear of success,” can look and feel the same. Both have similar consequences. Fear of success can be characterized by anxiety fueled by the belief that if you’re successful at the thing you’re dreaming of, you’ll lose […]
Read More →Are you feeling stuck in exactly the place you don’t want to be? Are you looking for the right moment – that perfect set of circumstances – that will change your life? Well, here is some simple advice: take advantage of opportunities that present themselves. Did a colleague or friend invite you to attend an […]
Read More →I’m a big fan of journaling. I’ve personally experienced the way it helps process feelings and relieve stress that can stifle my progress. As it turns out, writing is an excellent way to stave off anxiety. That’s what a psychology graduate student at Harvard discovered. Hans Schroder and his colleagues studied a group of women […]
Read More →Think about something you’ve learned. For example, how to manage meetings, make effective presentations, write well, play tennis or golf. How to be a good listener, a great salesperson, teacher, parent or surfer. Whatever you know how to do today, you’ve learned it by degrees. I call it learning in layers. The first layer of […]
Read More →Part 1 – Unlearning To Make Room For New Thinking We have been taught to focus on learning whatever is needed to propel ourselves forward, particularly in our careers. Yet, to make room for growth and to keep pace with our changing world, especially if we want inclusion to be the new norm, we […]
Read More →Tricks That May Put More Hours Into Your Day Overwhelming to-do lists are pretty common these days. There are lots suggested techniques for getting more done. These three, which I found in a Business.com article by Andrew Reiffenberger, are innovative. Put your cellphone in airplane mode when at your desk. This will reduce distraction from […]
Read More →Summer is a great time to catch up on recreational reading. But it’s also the perfect time to make progress toward life goals with books that nurture your inner coach. Here are a few of my favorites: Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life, by Dr. Martin Seligman. He provides tools to […]
Read More →3 Tips That Will Make You A Better Communicator For just one day, try this challenge. Listen more and talk less. Listen to understand. Listen to learn. Listen to empathize. Listen to validate. Listen to connect. Don’t worry. You won’t become invisible, powerless or less impactful. In fact, you’ll become more visible. You’ll stand out […]
Read More →Anxious? Depressed? Frustrated? Write It Out. Journaling is a highly effective tool for many reasons. It can help put a challenging situation into perspective. It can help you work through your fear, anxiety and relationship issues. Best of all, it’s private and it’s free. To get started, all you need is a notebook and a […]
Read More →Unlock the Hidden Forces That Are Working Against You Childhood experiences still shape the way we react to the world. That’s even true at work. Things that hurt us as children, and the methods we developed to cope, are foundational to our world view. They affect the way we deal with people and situations that […]
Read More →The Secret to Not Quitting What’s your approach to goal setting? Most of us use the process we’ve been taught: set a goal, make a plan with specific action steps, identify needed resources and determine a timeline. Even if we follow the plan perfectly, we don’t always get the result we want in the timing […]
Read More →You Can Train Your Memory Like You Train Your Body Would it surprise you to learn that there are people who train and compete in Memory Championships? Scientist in the Netherlands have proof that you can train to supersize your memory and the effects can be long lasting. After using functional and structural MRI’s on […]
Read More →Why You Shouldn’t Let Slow Progress Frustrate You I recently found a quote from an unknown source that read, “Some quit due to slow progress. Never grasping the fact that slow progress is progress.” It was a reminder that hit home and one that I think we could benefit from re-learning. In our “right now” […]
Read More →Always Choose To Use Your Discretionary Power Positively People notice how you use your discretionary power. By that, I mean how you choose to provide, or not provide, high quality service. Or the attitude with which you choose to respond to a colleague’s requests. It’s human nature to base everything, from buying decisions to who […]
Read More →Successful People Embrace And Learn From Failure Arianna Huffington says, “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes. Understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.” Appreciating the rewards of failure is something that sets achievers apart from people who allow fear […]
Read More →People are human sponges. We take in the personalities of the people we’re close to and mimic their behaviors without knowing it. So it’s important to identify and avoid personalities that don’t serve you well. Success.com says these are the five toxic personalities you should be on the lookout for. The Complainer. They whine about […]
Read More →Does your calendar run you? Or do you run your calendar? Here are simple tips to help you restore balance and keep your calendar from overwhelming your life.
Read More →The Importance of Feeling Heard Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs teaches us that a sense of belonging is central. Given that basic human need, it’s not surprising that those who feel threatened by social and economic changes, like an outsider, no longer central, spoke out in this year’s Presidential election. In every aspect of our lives, […]
Read More →Social Relationships At Work Affect Health Would it surprise you to learn that social relationships at work can affect your health? After an international team of researchers analyzed 58 studies from 15 countries, they concluded that positive workplace relationships are associated with better health and lower burnout. The report in the journal, “Personality and […]
Read More →Hold Yourself Accountable For Achieving Your Goals Often, the reason we struggle to achieve success is that we don’t hold ourselves accountable for reaching our goals. Each day is made up of an untold number of decisions that can move us closer to or further away from our goals. For example: do I update my […]
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