Success is created by the self-responsible – people who know for sure that they are accountable for their lives professionally and personally. Successful people don’t wait for others to secure their future. In fact, because they trust themselves to step up and take care of their needs and interests, they succeed in spite of circumstances. […]
Read More → To communicate effectively, we must be mindful about how our messages are sent and received. To that end, Mindtools.com breaks communication down into five component parts that are universally at play whenever we speak to another person. It all begins with the Source – which is you, coupled with the message you wish to […]
Read More → Clients often ask me about proven ways to develop themselves. They want to grow as people and be more skillful and emotionally intelligent when they engage with others. If you’re interested in growing in these areas, I recommend exploring Core Energetics. Core Energetics will help you enhance self-awareness, increase your ability to self-regulate and […]
Read More → Pushing back, or attempting to influence others to move or change their position, is something we all need to do from time to time. So, what keeps us from advocating for ourselves, or the greater good? Fear. That gut wrenching discomfort that pops up when we rock the boat, think we’re seen as a […]
Read More →Are you crystal clear about what you’d like to accomplish over the next month, six months or 2 years? If your goals are specific, congratulations! You’re ahead of the game, and you’re likely to achieve them. If your goals are more general, perhaps even vague, you’re less likely to make meaningful progress. When you’re specific, […]
Read More →While studying to become a certified Core Energetics Therapist, I was introduced to an insightful model that explained the three layers that make up our personalities. The concept delved beyond what we might think of as the good and bad parts of ourselves. This model provides a way to look beneath the surface and explore […]
Read More →How many times a day are you asked, “How are you?” What’s your reply? For most of us, it’s, “Fine. Good. Ok. Pretty good.” What if you considered the standard greeting, “How are you,” an opportunity to initiate contact and start a dialogue? Would you then consider responding in a way that’s novel, yet sincere? […]
Read More →As a certified user of Benchmarks, a 360 instrument developed by the Center for Creative Leadership, I find it an effective tool for helping leaders understand how they’re experienced and perceived along 16 competencies, rated by a range of stakeholders. Another important section of the report describes five problems that can stall your career. Problems […]
Read More →When we think we know we stop asking questions. Perhaps, we even stop listening. Sometimes, we assume we have the right answer or know what another is thinking. But, in reality, we don’t? If we want another’s truth, or we’re trying to collaborate and be inclusive, it’s important to ask others for their thoughts. A […]
Read More →Negative thought spirals can hijack our ability to power through situations we perceive as difficult. Forbes.com contributor Alice Walton offers some new ways to beat back those debilitating voices in our heads that make our fears feel real and infuse doubt. In addition to meditation and mindfulness, Walton recommends Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It sounds intense, […]
Read More →Psychologist and author Theodore Issac Rubin said, “Happiness does not come from doing easy work, but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes after achieving a difficult task that demanded our best.” I tend to agree. How about you? Completing easy tasks does come with a certain sense of satisfaction. Anytime we can check something […]
Read More → We’ve all encountered people who are quick to say “No” to suggestions or new ideas. Before any apparent consideration occurs, they instantly shoot down most, if not all people, who come to them with their ideas. Here’s what I recommend if you have a person like that in your life. Ask your question and […]
Read More →For some people, the first time they’re approached with a new idea or question, their reflex response is, “No.” Immediately, they put up a wall that halts progress toward innovation or needed change. If that feels familiar, try this… When confronted with something new, give yourself permission to delay acting reflexively. Give the cortisol in […]
Read More →When doubt starts to come between you and your goal(s), try these three things. Write Out Your Accomplishments. List all that you’ve experienced, learned, contributed and achieved since your last self-inventory. Put it down on paper and keep it handy. Add to it as your stable of successes expands. Notice Clues and Cues. Whenever others […]
Read More →You’re in a meeting. Something happens. You feel like pitching a fit. Heart racing, head swirling, your emotions are red hot. Here’s a way to diffuse your negative energetic charge and address the issue. Find someone with whom you can vent and get it out of your system. Vent with someone who will keep your […]
Read More →The Buddhist and Stephen Covey agree. “To know and not do, is really not to know.” In other words, when learning something new, never underestimate the importance of doing it. For example, if your favorite tennis player told you her secret to hitting a slice backhand, could you do it consistently? Not likely. The same […]
Read More →We Only Grow Old When We Stop Discovering New Things Our lifelong journey of becoming is precious. At times, we find ourselves yearning for an end to challenges, change, learning and growth. Yet, the cold hard truth is the journey of personal discovery and growth never ends. We are always changing and evolving. Where you […]
Read More →Fear Of The Unknown Is Choking Out Your Creativity For most of us, uncertainty is frightening. We try to control as much as we can. We want to know what’s ahead, and what the results of our actions will be. This felt need can stifle our desire to explore and discover new things – in […]
Read More →All around us, there are signs that many of us are deeply entrenched in our views. In a 2017 blog post, author Frank Sonnenberg wrote about the benefits of being open-minded. I want to share with you the eight reasons he urges us all to embrace open-mindedness. Your horizons will expand. Your decision-making will be […]
Read More →Here are some unexpected things we do that Forbes.com says can determine whether people judge us as likeable or not. How you treat waiters, receptionists and support staff can provide insight into how you treat people you assume don’t have the power to do anything for you. How often you check your phone. If you […]
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