Philosopher William James said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” Thoughts and emotions are tied to one another. Just thinking about something generates an emotional reaction, which triggers similar thoughts and emotions. This loop can send us spiraling downward in ways that are seemingly out of our […]
Read More →How many times a day are you asked, “How are you?” What’s your reply? For most of us, it’s, “Fine. Good. Ok. Pretty good.” What if you considered the standard greeting, “How are you,” an opportunity to initiate contact and start a dialogue? Would you then consider responding in a way that’s novel, yet sincere? […]
Read More →If you’ve been labeled shy, aloof, arrogant, distant or reserved, here are a few tips that could help you be experienced as more approachable: Be the first to speak. Initiate interaction. Don’t wait to be approached. When conversing, make steady eye contact. Don’t stare the person down, but connect enough, eye-to-eye, to give the other […]
Read More →Negative thought spirals can hijack our ability to power through situations we perceive as difficult. Forbes.com contributor Alice Walton offers some new ways to beat back those debilitating voices in our heads that make our fears feel real and infuse doubt. In addition to meditation and mindfulness, Walton recommends Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It sounds intense, […]
Read More →Psychologist and author Theodore Issac Rubin said, “Happiness does not come from doing easy work, but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes after achieving a difficult task that demanded our best.” I tend to agree. How about you? Completing easy tasks does come with a certain sense of satisfaction. Anytime we can check something […]
Read More →When doubt starts to come between you and your goal(s), try these three things. Write Out Your Accomplishments. List all that you’ve experienced, learned, contributed and achieved since your last self-inventory. Put it down on paper and keep it handy. Add to it as your stable of successes expands. Notice Clues and Cues. Whenever others […]
Read More →A direct report walks up to you and asks, “Can we talk?” She describes a problem she’s having. What’s your reflex response? Do you immediately launch into offering a solution? If so, you just robbed an eager employee of a chance to exercise her own problem-solving muscles. Instead of immediately focusing on resolving problems, listen […]
Read More →We Only Grow Old When We Stop Discovering New Things Our lifelong journey of becoming is precious. At times, we find ourselves yearning for an end to challenges, change, learning and growth. Yet, the cold hard truth is the journey of personal discovery and growth never ends. We are always changing and evolving. Where you […]
Read More →“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” This proverb, attributed to Buddhists, speaks to the very nature of the laws of attraction. When we’re poised to take on something new, we begin noticing things around us that can move us toward our goals. Our brains, bombarded with incalculable stimuli, are selective about what […]
Read More →Are you riding the wave that life has placed under you? Or are you consciously choosing a life that is personally meaningful and fulfilling. If you’re content being carried along by forces seemingly beyond your control, then stay the course. But, if you’re depressed, anxious, struggling to find happiness and purpose, your life is calling […]
Read More →How to Get Specific When Setting Goals It’s easy to lose your way when you’re trying to achieve a big, ambitious goal. But with the right plan, like the one Dr. Heidi Grant offers on Oprah.com, you’ll stay focused and steadily move forward. Grant suggests these five steps. First, write down your goal. Lose weight, […]
Read More → How to Stack The Deck In Your Favor Job security isn’t always guaranteed, but according to Fast Company contributor Gwen Moran, there are seven things you can do to stack the deck in your favor. Here are six of them. Channel elite athletes. Strive to improve your performance and up your professional game. Be […]
Read More →Self-Sabotage Starts With Making Big Assumptions Every one of us has big ideas, dreams and goals we want to pursue. We often get it into our heads that unless our plans to pursue these dreams are complicated, they won’t be successful. But sometimes, we make our lives — at work and at home — so […]
Read More →Whether at work or at home, if you’re feeling flat, de-energized, disinterested, or stuck in a rut, that means it’s time for a change. Time to wake up your energy and identify constructive actions that will help you to feel vital and vibrant. Psychologist Abraham Maslow said, “You either step forward into growth, or you […]
Read More →Our Words Shape Our Self-Confidence and Ability To Achieve Our Goals While the conversations you have with other people can be life defining, so is the monologue that runs, nonstop, in your head, all day, every day. What you talk about with others, and your self-talk, shape your thoughts and feelings. The more you talk […]
Read More →We’re more than half way through January. How are you doing with your resolutions? The New York Times offers up these suggestions to help you sustain commitment and stay the course. Be specific and concrete as you set goals. Make goals measureable. Establish milestones to measure your progress. Aim high and make sure your goals […]
Read More →If You’re Not Relevant, Your Job May Not Be Safe In your company, are you seen as competent and capable? If you’re not asking that question of yourself, you can bet people who count on you to deliver results, or look to you for leadership, are asking it about you. Here are six questions to […]
Read More →Regular One-On-Ones Could Prevent Future Crises Few leaders have the luxury of exclusively leading people. Typically, leaders have extensive to-do lists of their own. But, as a leader, your highest priority is supporting, motivating, guiding and inspiring the people who report to you. If you’re not already holding regular one-on-ones with key members of your […]
Read More →Are your current business goals big, more challenging than ever? Do they feel unrealistic, impractical, unattainable? What if the goal is not the issue, but you are – you and your limiting beliefs? You could be rooted in an old story about who you are and what you’re capable of? Are your thoughts filled with […]
Read More →Tackle the LIES® That Keep You From Achieving Your Dreams You want things, but you’re afraid to pursue them. Maybe you’re afraid you’ll fail. Or maybe you think that what you want requires more work than you can handle. Or maybe expressions of doubt that someone spoke to you, about you, are playing over and […]
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