Wondering how you might handle heated conversations during this, the season of workplace holiday parties? Business Insider consulted Dr. Michael McNulty, master trainer and founder of the Chicago Relationhip Center. He offered this timely advice in the event that you find yourself in an unavoidable debate.

Try turning the argument into a dialogue. McNulty says this is one way to understand and support one another even when you have significantly different points of view. A healthy dialogue means each person is given the chance to share their position without interruption. He recommends that each also tell stories to explain why their position is important to them. Others should listen, summarize and reflect back what they’re hearing.

Now, here’s the key: do not attempt to change people’s minds. Show respect for the person, even if you don’t agree with their opinion.