When unwanted results show up, and they always do, where do you put your energy and attention? On the problem or the solution?
In the realm of your personal and professional life, if you’re like the majority of people, the thing you don’t want captivates you. You think about it. Talk about it. Wrestle with it. Worry about it and allow it to disturb your peace of mind. In the process, you unintentionally, squander opportunities to surface solutions.
The next time you face a problem, instead of dwelling on the what’s wrong side of things, begin to ask yourself, and others, questions like, “What can I or we do to…,” fill in the blank with a statement of your preferred outcome. That small step, asking yourself and others how you can do what you want, reframe the situation from an issue to a search for outcomes. Now, the door to a world of possibilities opens. Give the desired state – the solution – your mental and emotional energy. Align your energy and your intentions with the solutions, not the problem.