Clients often ask me about proven ways to develop themselves. They want to grow as people and be more skillful and emotionally intelligent when they engage with others. If you’re interested in growing in these areas, I recommend exploring Core Energetics. Core Energetics will help you enhance self-awareness, increase your ability to self-regulate and […]

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While studying to become a certified Core Energetics Therapist, I was introduced to an insightful model that explained the three layers that make up our personalities. The concept delved beyond what we might think of as the good and bad parts of ourselves. This model provides a way to look beneath the surface and explore […]

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When we think we know we stop asking questions. Perhaps, we even stop listening. Sometimes, we assume we have the right answer or know what another is thinking. But, in reality, we don’t? If we want another’s truth, or we’re trying to collaborate and be inclusive, it’s important to ask others for their thoughts. A […]

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If you’ve been labeled shy, aloof, arrogant, distant or reserved, here are a few tips that could help you be experienced as more approachable: Be the first to speak. Initiate interaction. Don’t wait to be approached. When conversing, make steady eye contact. Don’t stare the person down, but connect enough, eye-to-eye, to give the other […]

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Negative thought spirals can hijack our ability to power through situations we perceive as difficult. Forbes.com contributor Alice Walton offers some new ways to beat back those debilitating voices in our heads that make our fears feel real and infuse doubt. In addition to meditation and mindfulness, Walton recommends Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It sounds intense, […]

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A recent Harvard Business Review article suggests that when trying to change someone’s mind, the best thing to do is listen. The article sited a powerful example where this approach led to change of a deeply-rooted and troubling custom among some Pakistani tribes. Frequently, instead of listening, we tend to craft an argument in favor […]

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Labels are part of how humans make sense of the world. But, when we reduce things to categories, we falsely convince ourselves that we understand our unknowable universe. Labels are, and have always been, the great separator. At work and out in the world, they’re used to make uneducated snap judgments. Labels influence the way […]

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 Sound consultant Julian Treasure advises companies around the world about using sound to their advantage. His book, “How to be Heard: Secrets for Powerful Speaking and Listening” reveals how to speak effectively – and goes beyond the sound and cadence of your voice. In his Ted Talk, Treasure explains that if you want to […]

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Are you plagued by a task that you know you must do, but just can’t bring yourself to complete? That email you need to write? That call you have to make? That conversation you’ve been putting off?  You’re not alone. No matter how on top of things you are, there are still times when you […]

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Who is on your “go-to” list? Who are the people you reach out to for new projects, innovative suggestions, opinions or feedback? Is it always the same narrow group, or do you consciously work to expand and diversify the members of your personal think thank? To create an inclusive culture, it’s extremely important that you […]

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For some people, the first time they’re approached with a new idea or question, their reflex response is, “No.” Immediately, they put up a wall that halts progress toward innovation or needed change. If that feels familiar, try this… When confronted with something new, give yourself permission to delay acting reflexively. Give the cortisol in […]

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When doubt starts to come between you and your goal(s), try these three things. Write Out Your Accomplishments. List all that you’ve experienced, learned, contributed and achieved since your last self-inventory. Put it down on paper and keep it handy. Add to it as your stable of successes expands. Notice Clues and Cues.   Whenever others […]

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You’re in a meeting. Something happens. You feel like pitching a fit. Heart racing, head swirling, your emotions are red hot. Here’s a way to diffuse your negative energetic charge and address the issue. Find someone with whom you can vent and get it out of your system. Vent with someone who will keep your […]

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All around us, there are signs that many of us are deeply entrenched in our views. In a 2017 blog post, author Frank Sonnenberg wrote about the benefits of being open-minded. I want to share with you the eight reasons he urges us all to embrace open-mindedness. Your horizons will expand. Your decision-making will be […]

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A senior leader asked me to work with him on several challenges, one of which is to how to get his team to be more participative during staff meetings. So, he invited me to a staff meeting to witness the action. Within ten minutes, the problem became crystal clear. He talked too much. He took […]

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Are you riding the wave that life has placed under you? Or are you consciously choosing a life that is personally meaningful and fulfilling. If you’re content being carried along by forces seemingly beyond your control, then stay the course. But, if you’re depressed, anxious, struggling to find happiness and purpose, your life is calling […]

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How to Get Specific When Setting Goals It’s easy to lose your way when you’re trying to achieve a big, ambitious goal. But with the right plan, like the one Dr. Heidi Grant offers on Oprah.com, you’ll stay focused and steadily move forward. Grant suggests these five steps. First, write down your goal. Lose weight, […]

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It’s human nature to want to leave a legacy. It’s never too early or late to start thinking about your legacy. Legacies can take many forms. Knowing what you’d like to leave behind can serve as a powerful compass – a force that can help guide you over the long term, enabling you to stay […]

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“To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.” Within these words by Henry David Thoreau, I find an undeniable truth about consciously choosing to think positively. So, I’m asking you: what thoughts are occupying valuable space in your mind?  Do you […]

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 Lift the Burden By Acting With Integrity Here’s a Zig Ziglar quote I really like: “With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt.” These words make me breathe more easily. What a beautiful, unburdened way […]

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