Our Words Shape Our Self-Confidence and Ability To Achieve Our Goals While the conversations you have with other people can be life defining, so is the monologue that runs, nonstop, in your head, all day, every day. What you talk about with others, and your self-talk, shape your thoughts and feelings. The more you talk […]

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 Do You Really Communicate As Effectively? William Butler Yeats once said, “Think like a wise man, but communicate in the language of the people.” While you could interpret, “language of the people” in a lot of ways, in my view, Yeats is saying know your audience and speak to them so they will understand. […]

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These 3 Questions Can Turn Problems Into Solutions When something bad happens, it can launch us into a negative spiral of thoughts and reactions, “blame-storming” or an overwhelming sense of intractable defeat. Such reactions are not productive, nor do they acknowledge the full reality of the situation. Remember, there are opportunities within what is perceived […]

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If You’re Not Relevant, Your Job May Not Be Safe In your company, are you seen as competent and capable? If you’re not asking that question of yourself, you can bet people who count on you to deliver results, or look to you for leadership, are asking it about you. Here are six questions to […]

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Are You A “Yes” Person Or A “No” Person? The first response to just about any question for a “no” person is, “No.” Even if the answer turns out to be yes, the “no” person starts with “No.” “Yes” people usually begin with, “Yes,” or at least, “Let me see how I can help you.” […]

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 These Simple Steps Can Change Your Perspective Some people are fortunate; they find meaning in the work that they do. Others have to dig a little deeper to experience a sense of significance in their everyday tasks. If that sounds like you, here are four ways you can find greater meaning at work — […]

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The Rules Are Changing. Are You? Company holiday parties are an important place for coworkers to bond and get to know each other outside of the work environment. But this year, scrutiny of everyone’s behavior is more intense. It’s important to keep in mind that not all harassment is sexual or physical. Here are some […]

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Tackle the LIES® That Keep You From Achieving Your Dreams You want things, but you’re afraid to pursue them. Maybe you’re afraid you’ll fail. Or maybe you think that what you want requires more work than you can handle. Or maybe expressions of doubt that someone spoke to you, about you, are playing over and […]

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The Struggle Is Real Fear of failure is pretty widely accepted as a real thing. But its lesser-known counterpart, “fear of success,” can look and feel the same. Both have similar consequences. Fear of success can be characterized by anxiety fueled by the belief that if you’re successful at the thing you’re dreaming of, you’ll lose […]

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Valuable Life Lesson From The Yoga Mat In Yoga, it’s common for the instructor to ask students to set an intention for their practice. An intention is the goal the person wishes to achieve, like being present, breathing deeply, more fully embodying a particular posture. Intentions are powerful tools, on and off the yoga mat. […]

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Your First Instincts Can Steer You Wrong In a recent interview, Princeton Professor Betsy Levy Paluck made a case for not fully trusting your first instincts. “We rush to simplify,” she said, drawing boundaries around our team and trying to make sense of a situation by justifying what’s right for ourselves. In such moments, our […]

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How to Restore or Earn Trust In Any Relationship In the workplace and in life, past behavior patterns are seen as trustworthy predictors of future performance. Others judge us based on our history – whether experienced directly, inferred from a resume or by another person. Researchers who study social systems suggest that past behavior defines […]

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Yoga is an active form of mindfulness and meditation that reduces stress and anxiety. Studies have found that Yoga not only improves cardiovascular health, digestion, flexibility, balance and overall quality of life, it improves clarity of thought and enhances self-awareness. Across the US, the number of people practicing Yoga has increased dramatically. A recent survey […]

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When you feel stress or anxiety, do you double down by also feeling guilty about it? According to the Harvard Health Blog, that can contribute to poor, long-term psychological health. Contributor Dr. David R Topor sites a study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, which concluded that people who accept feeling bad fare […]

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Is Work Getting You Down? Author and Harvard Business Review contributor Annie McKee says that could be due to one of three “Happiness Traps,” which are destructive mindsets and ways of working that keep you stuck, unhappy and rob you of success. “The Ambition Trap” pushes you to do your best, but it becomes counter […]

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You’ve probably heard the expression, “In life, it’s not what happens to you that matters, it’s how you respond.” Many of our greatest heroes understood and lived those words. For instance, Nelson Mandela, who didn’t allow years of being jailed to stand in the way of being forgiving, or becoming President of the nation that […]

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Resistance is data. Don’t make it a problem. Don’t push against it, get angry, or wonder, “What’s wrong with them?” When I say resistance, I’m referencing those moments when you feel others are working in opposition to you. They’re saying, “No,” for no apparent reason, countering your good ideas, being confrontational and unhelpful, fighting against […]

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During a recent workshop, a participant confessed his lack of empathy – a core dimension of emotional intelligence. He said, “I don’t have any, and I don’t know how to begin to think about feeling the way others do.”  Given the laughter and head nodding from the others in the room, he was not alone. […]

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My book, LIES That Limit, makes it clear that mindset – what we believe, how we think – is everything. Mindset is the composite of our beliefs and assumptions – our theory about life, other people, even ourselves. We feel safe when we make choices consistent with our story about the way things are. Yet, […]

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Have you ever received feedback and wondered, “Where on earth did that come from?” It seems so not like you, hard to believe, downright wrong.  Of course, sometimes, feedback is based on misperception.  And, at other times, it may be a precious gift you don’t want to accept. Feedback that sounds foreign – unlike anything […]

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