A recent New York Times article explored ways our peers influence us. The article contends that if we surround ourselves with positive people who are committed to healthy lifestyles and who support each other, we are more likely to behave similarly. In Okinawa, Japan, these kinds of communities are set up deliberately. And it’s […]

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 One thing we all have in common is that at some point, we will face obstacles. We will be tempted to turn back, negating the progress we’ve made. Yet, within each of us is the capacity to persevere. We, each of us, find that strength in different ways and places. Success.com contributor John Addison […]

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 Success.com contributor Tom Bilyeu offers tips on how to up-end our human tendency to be critical of self and others. He encourages us to recognize our triggers and choose our reactions. For example, replace the tendency to criticize with compliments. Why? Because criticism doesn’t work so well in interpersonal relationships. So, resist the tendency […]

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I Googled the term “Self Awareness” and got 300,000 search results. It’s a term that gets thrown around quite a bit.  But, like many phrases that are tossed about in every day language, the actual meaning is lost on some.  People may nod in agreement when they hear it, but do they really know what it means to be self-aware?  Do you really know what it means? According to all-knowing, all-seeing Wikipedia, “Self-awareness is […]

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Philosopher William James said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” Thoughts and emotions are tied to one another. Just thinking about something generates an emotional reaction, which triggers similar thoughts and emotions. This loop can send us spiraling downward in ways that are seemingly out of our […]

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Success is created by the self-responsible – people who know for sure that they are accountable for their lives professionally and personally. Successful people don’t wait for others to secure their future. In fact, because they trust themselves to step up and take care of their needs and interests, they succeed in spite of circumstances. […]

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Wishing someone at work would say, “I noticed what you did. Thank You. Good job!” Such needs are real and are borne out of frustration and benign neglect. We look up to leadership, expecting them to validate our presence and good performance. We hope team members we’ve helped or whose mistakes we corrected would say, […]

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 Clients often ask me about proven ways to develop themselves. They want to grow as people and be more skillful and emotionally intelligent when they engage with others. If you’re interested in growing in these areas, I recommend exploring Core Energetics. Core Energetics will help you enhance self-awareness, increase your ability to self-regulate and […]

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While studying to become a certified Core Energetics Therapist, I was introduced to an insightful model that explained the three layers that make up our personalities. The concept delved beyond what we might think of as the good and bad parts of ourselves. This model provides a way to look beneath the surface and explore […]

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When we think we know we stop asking questions. Perhaps, we even stop listening. Sometimes, we assume we have the right answer or know what another is thinking. But, in reality, we don’t? If we want another’s truth, or we’re trying to collaborate and be inclusive, it’s important to ask others for their thoughts. A […]

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If you’ve been labeled shy, aloof, arrogant, distant or reserved, here are a few tips that could help you be experienced as more approachable: Be the first to speak. Initiate interaction. Don’t wait to be approached. When conversing, make steady eye contact. Don’t stare the person down, but connect enough, eye-to-eye, to give the other […]

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Negative thought spirals can hijack our ability to power through situations we perceive as difficult. Forbes.com contributor Alice Walton offers some new ways to beat back those debilitating voices in our heads that make our fears feel real and infuse doubt. In addition to meditation and mindfulness, Walton recommends Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It sounds intense, […]

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A recent Harvard Business Review article suggests that when trying to change someone’s mind, the best thing to do is listen. The article sited a powerful example where this approach led to change of a deeply-rooted and troubling custom among some Pakistani tribes. Frequently, instead of listening, we tend to craft an argument in favor […]

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Labels are part of how humans make sense of the world. But, when we reduce things to categories, we falsely convince ourselves that we understand our unknowable universe. Labels are, and have always been, the great separator. At work and out in the world, they’re used to make uneducated snap judgments. Labels influence the way […]

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 Sound consultant Julian Treasure advises companies around the world about using sound to their advantage. His book, “How to be Heard: Secrets for Powerful Speaking and Listening” reveals how to speak effectively – and goes beyond the sound and cadence of your voice. In his Ted Talk, Treasure explains that if you want to […]

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Are you plagued by a task that you know you must do, but just can’t bring yourself to complete? That email you need to write? That call you have to make? That conversation you’ve been putting off?  You’re not alone. No matter how on top of things you are, there are still times when you […]

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Who is on your “go-to” list? Who are the people you reach out to for new projects, innovative suggestions, opinions or feedback? Is it always the same narrow group, or do you consciously work to expand and diversify the members of your personal think thank? To create an inclusive culture, it’s extremely important that you […]

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For some people, the first time they’re approached with a new idea or question, their reflex response is, “No.” Immediately, they put up a wall that halts progress toward innovation or needed change. If that feels familiar, try this… When confronted with something new, give yourself permission to delay acting reflexively. Give the cortisol in […]

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When doubt starts to come between you and your goal(s), try these three things. Write Out Your Accomplishments. List all that you’ve experienced, learned, contributed and achieved since your last self-inventory. Put it down on paper and keep it handy. Add to it as your stable of successes expands. Notice Clues and Cues.   Whenever others […]

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You’re in a meeting. Something happens. You feel like pitching a fit. Heart racing, head swirling, your emotions are red hot. Here’s a way to diffuse your negative energetic charge and address the issue. Find someone with whom you can vent and get it out of your system. Vent with someone who will keep your […]

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