We’ve all encountered people who are quick to say “No” to suggestions or new ideas. Before any apparent consideration occurs, they instantly shoot down most, if not all people, who come to them with their ideas. Here’s what I recommend if you have a person like that in your life. Ask your question and […]

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For some people, the first time they’re approached with a new idea or question, their reflex response is, “No.” Immediately, they put up a wall that halts progress toward innovation or needed change. If that feels familiar, try this… When confronted with something new, give yourself permission to delay acting reflexively. Give the cortisol in […]

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When doubt starts to come between you and your goal(s), try these three things. Write Out Your Accomplishments. List all that you’ve experienced, learned, contributed and achieved since your last self-inventory. Put it down on paper and keep it handy. Add to it as your stable of successes expands. Notice Clues and Cues.   Whenever others […]

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You’re in a meeting. Something happens. You feel like pitching a fit. Heart racing, head swirling, your emotions are red hot. Here’s a way to diffuse your negative energetic charge and address the issue. Find someone with whom you can vent and get it out of your system. Vent with someone who will keep your […]

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The Buddhist and Stephen Covey agree. “To know and not do, is really not to know.” In other words, when learning something new, never underestimate the importance of doing it. For example, if your favorite tennis player told you her secret to hitting a slice backhand, could you do it consistently? Not likely. The same […]

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We Only Grow Old When We Stop Discovering New Things Our lifelong journey of becoming is precious. At times, we find ourselves yearning for an end to challenges, change, learning and growth. Yet, the cold hard truth is the journey of personal discovery and growth never ends. We are always changing and evolving. Where you […]

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Fear Of The Unknown Is Choking Out Your Creativity For most of us, uncertainty is frightening. We try to control as much as we can. We want to know what’s ahead, and what the results of our actions will be. This felt need can stifle our desire to explore and discover new things – in […]

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All around us, there are signs that many of us are deeply entrenched in our views. In a 2017 blog post, author Frank Sonnenberg wrote about the benefits of being open-minded. I want to share with you the eight reasons he urges us all to embrace open-mindedness. Your horizons will expand. Your decision-making will be […]

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Here are some unexpected things we do that Forbes.com says can determine whether people judge us as likeable or not. How you treat waiters, receptionists and support staff can provide insight into how you treat people you assume don’t have the power to do anything for you. How often you check your phone. If you […]

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Are you riding the wave that life has placed under you? Or are you consciously choosing a life that is personally meaningful and fulfilling. If you’re content being carried along by forces seemingly beyond your control, then stay the course. But, if you’re depressed, anxious, struggling to find happiness and purpose, your life is calling […]

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How to Get Specific When Setting Goals It’s easy to lose your way when you’re trying to achieve a big, ambitious goal. But with the right plan, like the one Dr. Heidi Grant offers on Oprah.com, you’ll stay focused and steadily move forward. Grant suggests these five steps. First, write down your goal. Lose weight, […]

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 How to Stack The Deck In Your Favor Job security isn’t always guaranteed, but according to Fast Company contributor Gwen Moran, there are seven things you can do to stack the deck in your favor. Here are six of them. Channel elite athletes. Strive to improve your performance and up your professional game. Be […]

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“To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.” Within these words by Henry David Thoreau, I find an undeniable truth about consciously choosing to think positively. So, I’m asking you: what thoughts are occupying valuable space in your mind?  Do you […]

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Whether at work or at home, if you’re feeling flat, de-energized, disinterested, or stuck in a rut, that means it’s time for a change. Time to wake up your energy and identify constructive actions that will help you to feel vital and vibrant. Psychologist Abraham Maslow said, “You either step forward into growth, or you […]

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 Simple words and phrases that we use every day can stand in the way of moving up. In an interview with Crystal Barnett, a senior HR specialist, Fast Company looked at eight phrases that send the wrong signals. Here are a few. Starting sentences with the word “honestly” signals that an attack is about […]

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 How to Get Yourself Out of The Middle At one time or another, you’ve probably found yourself smack dab in the middle of other people’s tensions, tussles and antagonistic relationships. A very uncomfortable place to be. Here are a few principles to keep in mind that can help you extricate yourself from the middle, […]

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 It’s wise to think through a sticky, difficult to discuss issue, before raising it for open dialogue. Developed by the late Harvard Professor Chris Argyris, here’s an exercise that can help you think through hard to discuss topics, and perhaps find the clarity and courage to surface them for dialogue: Identify the specific situation […]

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4 Ways to Survive If Someone Loses It On You Here are a few tips to consider when you’re faced with another person’s angry meltdown, in the office, or in your personal life: First, remain calm. Breathe. If you also get upset, the situation is sure to escalate and spiral in the wrong direction. Don’t […]

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We’re more than half way through January. How are you doing with your resolutions? The New York Times offers up these suggestions to help you sustain commitment and stay the course. Be specific and concrete as you set goals. Make goals measureable. Establish milestones to measure your progress. Aim high and make sure your goals […]

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 The prevalence of overly biased thinking is something we seem to be confronted with more and more. Increasingly, I hear people questioning how we got here, why, and what can be done about it. Virginia Tech professor Ann-Sophie Chaxel conducted a study to see if people can be led toward less biased thinking and […]

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