Our Words Shape Our Self-Confidence and Ability To Achieve Our Goals While the conversations you have with other people can be life defining, so is the monologue that runs, nonstop, in your head, all day, every day. What you talk about with others, and your self-talk, shape your thoughts and feelings. The more you talk […]

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  Of the over 40 videos on my website, tmgspeaks.com, the most popular one is, “How to Listen More and Talk Less.” I’m delighted that people are interested in becoming better listeners. It seems, at times, that the scales are tipping dramatically away from “listening to understand,” and toward “listening to respond.” The two modes […]

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 The prevalence of overly biased thinking is something we seem to be confronted with more and more. Increasingly, I hear people questioning how we got here, why, and what can be done about it. Virginia Tech professor Ann-Sophie Chaxel conducted a study to see if people can be led toward less biased thinking and […]

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What Made Businesses Great In 2001 Still Works Today Jim Collin’s book “Good to Great” was written in 2001. The “Level 5 Leaders” he wrote about were most effective at producing high returns. But by their very nature, Level 5 Leaders aren’t in the headlines. Their accomplishments are rarely showcased as examples of success. But […]

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Let Conscious Choice — Not Emotion — Drive Your Actions When things go wrong, what do you focus on? Identifying who made the mistake or whose fault it was? Do you obsess about the weak link in the chain? Or do you use your finite energy to craft a solution? I’m sure you can guess […]

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How To Move Forward With Emotionally Intelligence When a project you’ve made a significant investment in goes south because you misread the direction of the market, or your plan was poorly executed, can you check your ego at the door? Or do you waste time and energy trying to cover up missteps or attempting to […]

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The Rules Are Changing. Are You? Company holiday parties are an important place for coworkers to bond and get to know each other outside of the work environment. But this year, scrutiny of everyone’s behavior is more intense. It’s important to keep in mind that not all harassment is sexual or physical. Here are some […]

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 Based On A Tweet from Paul Osincup A Twitter post that whizzed through my stream read, “When addressing conflict with others, remind yourself — curious not furious.” It can be difficult to calmly and respectfully get to the bottom of an issue in the heat of battle. Our natural response is to put up […]

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Your First Instincts Can Steer You Wrong In a recent interview, Princeton Professor Betsy Levy Paluck made a case for not fully trusting your first instincts. “We rush to simplify,” she said, drawing boundaries around our team and trying to make sense of a situation by justifying what’s right for ourselves. In such moments, our […]

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How to Restore or Earn Trust In Any Relationship In the workplace and in life, past behavior patterns are seen as trustworthy predictors of future performance. Others judge us based on our history – whether experienced directly, inferred from a resume or by another person. Researchers who study social systems suggest that past behavior defines […]

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I’m a big fan of journaling. I’ve personally experienced the way it helps process feelings and relieve stress that can stifle my progress. As it turns out, writing is an excellent way to stave off anxiety. That’s what a psychology graduate student at Harvard discovered. Hans Schroder and his colleagues studied a group of women […]

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One of the latest phrases cascading through the business world is “disruptive change.” It’s used by companies looking to innovate, stand out and lead their industry. But when being “disruptive” evolves from business philosophy to reality, everyone along the chain of command could be subjected to urgent and dramatic change, often. Change is hard. Repeated […]

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Yoga is an active form of mindfulness and meditation that reduces stress and anxiety. Studies have found that Yoga not only improves cardiovascular health, digestion, flexibility, balance and overall quality of life, it improves clarity of thought and enhances self-awareness. Across the US, the number of people practicing Yoga has increased dramatically. A recent survey […]

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Is Work Getting You Down? Author and Harvard Business Review contributor Annie McKee says that could be due to one of three “Happiness Traps,” which are destructive mindsets and ways of working that keep you stuck, unhappy and rob you of success. “The Ambition Trap” pushes you to do your best, but it becomes counter […]

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Life Lessons From Seinfeld One of my favorite episodes of Seinfeld was “The Jimmy.” It was about the guy who talked about himself in the third person. Remember that great dialogue where he announced, “Jimmy’s sweet on Elaine?” Research now shows that talking to yourself in the third person can help regulate your emotions. According […]

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Soft Skills For The Future The folks at Fast Company talked to job experts to find out what skills will be most important to employers in the future. Here are five that you may or may not see in the job posting. Storytelling – being able to figure out the needs of stakeholders and then […]

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You’ve probably heard the expression, “In life, it’s not what happens to you that matters, it’s how you respond.” Many of our greatest heroes understood and lived those words. For instance, Nelson Mandela, who didn’t allow years of being jailed to stand in the way of being forgiving, or becoming President of the nation that […]

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Resistance is data. Don’t make it a problem. Don’t push against it, get angry, or wonder, “What’s wrong with them?” When I say resistance, I’m referencing those moments when you feel others are working in opposition to you. They’re saying, “No,” for no apparent reason, countering your good ideas, being confrontational and unhelpful, fighting against […]

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Buddha said, “Those who have failed to work toward the truth have missed the purpose of living.” This reminds me to look beyond the story of my limited, personal truth about situations and people. Whether in the workplace or in our private lives, we have to look beyond our limited understanding to see truth. For […]

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The ease with which an email can be sent, and the rush to move on to the next task, can be a dangerous combination. The result can be emails that fuel the fire rather than move the process forward. So, if you haven’t read the sender’s entire email and understand the message, pause before you […]

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