It happens to all of us. You’re cruising through your day, then suddenly something completely unexpected happens. The boss springs a new project on you, or an unforeseen crisis occurs with a customer. Anxiety amps up and angst sets in. Here are two truths to soothe your psyche. First, no one is promised a 100% […]

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Speaker and business trainer Lou Adler once said, “Good people ask good questions.” People who ask good questions see themselves as learners. They engage with a sense of curiosity, wonder and a willingness to acknowledge that they don’t know everything. Try putting this approach to use at your next meeting with a client, prospect, colleague […]

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English writer Joseph Addison was quoted as saying, “If you wish to succeed in life, make perseverance your bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother, and hope your guardian genius.” Let’s look closer at this 17th century road map for getting ahead. Make perseverance your bosom friend. It can be hard to […]

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 Success.com contributor Sara Fabian’s article, “7 Life Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner,” puts things we stress out about into perspective. Fabian, a woman’s career and empowerment coach, says she herself struggled with low self-esteem. She didn’t see herself as beautiful, smart or good enough, so, she took matters into her own hands. She […]

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 In Sara Fabian’s Success.com article, “7 Life Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner,” she shares her seven truths, beginning with: Loving my whole self – mind, body and soul – is not selfish. Rather, it’s necessary for a healthy life. Perfection is pure fiction. She quotes John C. Maxwell, who said “Sometimes we win, sometimes […]

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In one of author Alan Zimmerman’s blogs called “Tuesday Tips,” he quotes Psychologist Jack Berg, who said, “the human mind reaches for understanding like a flower for the sun.” Zimmerman believes people yearn to be understood, and without understanding, we drive a wedge between others and us. Take that idea of people yearning to be […]

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First there was IQ. Then came EQ or Emotional Intelligence. Now Judith Glazer of “The Harvard Coaching Institute” has introduced the concept of CQ or Conversational Intelligence. CQ taps into our need for self-expression and validation. Glazer says that in environments where people can share their aspirations, intentions and fears freely, the door opens for […]

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I Googled the term “Self Awareness” and got 300,000 search results. It’s a term that gets thrown around quite a bit.  But, like many phrases that are tossed about in every day language, the actual meaning is lost on some.  People may nod in agreement when they hear it, but do they really know what it means to be self-aware?  Do you really know what it means? According to all-knowing, all-seeing Wikipedia, “Self-awareness is […]

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Philosopher William James said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” Thoughts and emotions are tied to one another. Just thinking about something generates an emotional reaction, which triggers similar thoughts and emotions. This loop can send us spiraling downward in ways that are seemingly out of our […]

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 Clients often ask me about proven ways to develop themselves. They want to grow as people and be more skillful and emotionally intelligent when they engage with others. If you’re interested in growing in these areas, I recommend exploring Core Energetics. Core Energetics will help you enhance self-awareness, increase your ability to self-regulate and […]

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 Pushing back, or attempting to influence others to move or change their position, is something we all need to do from time to time. So, what keeps us from advocating for ourselves, or the greater good? Fear. That gut wrenching discomfort that pops up when we rock the boat, think we’re seen as a […]

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Negative thought spirals can hijack our ability to power through situations we perceive as difficult. Forbes.com contributor Alice Walton offers some new ways to beat back those debilitating voices in our heads that make our fears feel real and infuse doubt. In addition to meditation and mindfulness, Walton recommends Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It sounds intense, […]

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A recent Harvard Business Review article suggests that when trying to change someone’s mind, the best thing to do is listen. The article sited a powerful example where this approach led to change of a deeply-rooted and troubling custom among some Pakistani tribes. Frequently, instead of listening, we tend to craft an argument in favor […]

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Labels are part of how humans make sense of the world. But, when we reduce things to categories, we falsely convince ourselves that we understand our unknowable universe. Labels are, and have always been, the great separator. At work and out in the world, they’re used to make uneducated snap judgments. Labels influence the way […]

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You’re in a meeting. Something happens. You feel like pitching a fit. Heart racing, head swirling, your emotions are red hot. Here’s a way to diffuse your negative energetic charge and address the issue. Find someone with whom you can vent and get it out of your system. Vent with someone who will keep your […]

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All around us, there are signs that many of us are deeply entrenched in our views. In a 2017 blog post, author Frank Sonnenberg wrote about the benefits of being open-minded. I want to share with you the eight reasons he urges us all to embrace open-mindedness. Your horizons will expand. Your decision-making will be […]

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Sales Superstars Don’t Necessarily Make Good Leaders If you’re a senior executive don’t be swayed by star performers who aren’t team players. Stop being overly inclusive as a means of avoiding conflict. And, be honest when a team member’s performance no longer makes the grade. A recent article by McKinsey & Company says the talent […]

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“To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.” Within these words by Henry David Thoreau, I find an undeniable truth about consciously choosing to think positively. So, I’m asking you: what thoughts are occupying valuable space in your mind?  Do you […]

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 Lift the Burden By Acting With Integrity Here’s a Zig Ziglar quote I really like: “With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt.” These words make me breathe more easily. What a beautiful, unburdened way […]

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 Your Important Work After the Big Hire You’ve just completed a lengthy hiring process that included internal and external candidates. For someone in your company, getting that job would have meant a promotion. Even though you can start celebrating finding your ideal hire, you also have to break the news to a fellow employee […]

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