In one of author Alan Zimmerman’s blogs called “Tuesday Tips,” he quotes Psychologist Jack Berg, who said, “the human mind reaches for understanding like a flower for the sun.” Zimmerman believes people yearn to be understood, and without understanding, we may drive a wedge between ourselves and others. Understanding, and being understood, becomes a special […]

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Have you ever wondered how best to say you’re sorry after making a big mistake or unconsciously doing something that generates unintended negative consequences? According to Psychology Today, for an apology to be effective, it must focus on the other person’s needs – not your own. Too often apologies are ineffective because we’re trying to make ourselves feel better […]

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Effective Apologies Have you ever wondered how best to say you’re sorry after making a big mistake? Researchers at Ohio State & Eastern Kentucky University’s may have the answer. They determined that there are 6 elements that make up an effective apology. Participants in the study ranked the first two elements ‑- acknowledging you made […]

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Which Black History month events are you attending? Whatever you do, go with a beginner’s mind. Even if you don’t typically participate in such programs, go with an open, nonjudgmental mindset.  You’re bound to learn something – about yourself, your colleagues or the history of people of African descent in the US. In fact, here’s […]

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When it comes to decision-making, do you procrastinate? Do you weigh the pros and cons, over and over, again? Do you hesitate in an approach-avoidance dance? You’re not alone. Many people fear making the wrong decision so they make no decision at all. If any of this sounds like you, consider this: as long as […]

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Using the Implicit Assumption Tests, IATs, as well as, visualization and the loving kindness meditation, a Buddhist practice known to engender feelings of happiness and kindness towards oneself and others, researchers have made an interesting discovery. They’ve found that just seven minutes of the loving-kindness meditation, with the meditator focused on a person of a […]

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With summer essentially behind us, and fourth quarter well underway, now is a good time to review your 2015 goals. Begin by noting progress to date, and then determine what’s required to achieve success by year-end. Be brutally honest with yourself as you conduct your review. Assess your current degree of commitment to achieving the […]

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  John, a coaching client, lives in a pressure-filled world. Recently, he said, “My days are so hectic. Sometimes, I feel like shouting, ‘Leave me alone. I can’t do another thing. I’m tired.’” Today, many of us feel pulled and pressured. While we wish things would change, without active intervention, it’s highly unlikely. For a […]

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  A regular reader of my weekly newsletter wrote and described what she called her slump. I don’t know about you, but I’ve had more than a few slumps over the course of my life. It’s that period of time where you feel flat, flaccid, and apathetic; your energy is low and motivation is missing. […]

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      As a keynote speaker, workshop leader and executive coach, I meet people whose technical expertise is top notch. They have few rivals when it comes to their depth of industry knowledge and insight into future trends.  Early on, their career progresses nicely…promotions and accolades, bonuses and rewards.  After a time, they find themselves […]

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  Professional speaker, Jim Rohn, says, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” That’s something to think about! And, it makes sense. We’re impacted by our environment – our physical surroundings and relationships. The people with whom we interact regularly influence how we think, feel and behave. Who are […]

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Did you know that many of the limitations in your life are self-imposed? I call them LIES. LIES are false ideas that limit freedom. And, L-I-E-S is an acronym for the Labels, Illusions, Excuses and Stories we allow to define our lives, professionally and personally. You know you’ve bumped into LIES in your life when: […]

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    Summer vacation is just about over. For many children and adults, this time of year gives us a special opportunity to build on past successes and start anew in areas where change and improvement are needed. Here’s a strategy that can support your growth, and that of the youngsters in your life:  acknowledge […]

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The next time you have a difference of opinion with someone, before beginning an argument or concluding they’re wrong or crazy, practice the skill of Inquiry.  Inquiry is a respectful way of probing in order to better understand another’s reasoning and can help you avoid drawing faulty conclusions based on false assumptions about what’s going […]

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You’ve probably heard the news about an interim report issued by Acting Inspector General Richard Griffin on the systemic problems in the Veteran’s Affairs agency.  The report intensified scrutiny and resulted in expansion of the number of VA facilities to be reviewed. As a leader, consider allowing this situation to stimulate a deeper, broader look […]

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I’m a manager in a large company with 15 direct reports.  Sometimes, I have trouble figuring out how to handle certain performance problems.  How do I figure out what to do?    ~D.G. Dear D.G., Here are a few “how to” pointers for your consideration.  As you weigh various options, remember to make use of […]

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You’re about to engage in a difficult, yet crucial conversation – one where emotional tensions are high, you’re intent on proving a point, being right and prevailing.  Often times, there’s little warning.  You may suddenly find yourself in the middle of a response before you’ve properly assessed the situation. When difficult conversations don’t happen, problems […]

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You’re about to engage in a difficult, yet crucial conversation – one where emotional tensions are high, you’re intent on proving a point, being right and prevailing.  Often times, there’s little warning.  You may suddenly find yourself in the middle of a response before you’ve properly assessed the situation. When difficult conversations don’t happen, problems […]

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