When the clients, individuals or organizations I work with want to improve in any area, I often take them through exercises designed to open their eyes to the ways in which they’re already doing part of what they say is needed. With that awareness, the focus shifts from “all the ways we’re falling short” to, […]

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When doubt starts to come between you and your goal(s), try these three things. Write Out Your Accomplishments. List all that you’ve experienced, learned, contributed and achieved since your last self-inventory. Put it down on paper and keep it handy. Add to it as your stable of successes expands. Notice Clues and Cues.   Whenever others […]

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There’s No US vs. THEM Recently, I facilitated an all-hands meeting where participants talked about state of the business. I repeatedly heard comments like, “The company” doesn’t promote from within. “The company” is risk averse. “The company’s” merit and bonus programs are unfair. It’s hard to know who to trust in “this company.” After allowing […]

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A senior leader asked me to work with him on several challenges, one of which is to how to get his team to be more participative during staff meetings. So, he invited me to a staff meeting to witness the action. Within ten minutes, the problem became crystal clear. He talked too much. He took […]

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Often, we unwittingly sell ourselves short. We underestimate our ability to overcome challenges and achieve the extra-ordinary.   My book, LIES That Limit, explores this very real aspect of human nature through the lens of the Labels, Illusions, Excuses and Stories – the LIES we carry in our heads. These LIES were likely put there by […]

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Whether at work or at home, if you’re feeling flat, de-energized, disinterested, or stuck in a rut, that means it’s time for a change. Time to wake up your energy and identify constructive actions that will help you to feel vital and vibrant. Psychologist Abraham Maslow said, “You either step forward into growth, or you […]

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Our Words Shape Our Self-Confidence and Ability To Achieve Our Goals While the conversations you have with other people can be life defining, so is the monologue that runs, nonstop, in your head, all day, every day. What you talk about with others, and your self-talk, shape your thoughts and feelings. The more you talk […]

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Are your current business goals big, more challenging than ever?  Do they feel unrealistic, impractical, unattainable? What if the goal is not the issue, but you are – you and your limiting beliefs?   You could be rooted in an old story about who you are and what you’re capable of?  Are your thoughts filled with […]

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Tackle the LIES® That Keep You From Achieving Your Dreams You want things, but you’re afraid to pursue them. Maybe you’re afraid you’ll fail. Or maybe you think that what you want requires more work than you can handle. Or maybe expressions of doubt that someone spoke to you, about you, are playing over and […]

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How to Restore or Earn Trust In Any Relationship In the workplace and in life, past behavior patterns are seen as trustworthy predictors of future performance. Others judge us based on our history – whether experienced directly, inferred from a resume or by another person. Researchers who study social systems suggest that past behavior defines […]

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Change and Continual Learning Are Essential To Growth Whether you’re the CEO, a middle manager, administrative assistant, or the security guard, continual learning and growth are key to your success. You need look no further than your cellphone or computer to see how rapidly technology is changing the way things get done. Today, keeping up […]

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Yoga is an active form of mindfulness and meditation that reduces stress and anxiety. Studies have found that Yoga not only improves cardiovascular health, digestion, flexibility, balance and overall quality of life, it improves clarity of thought and enhances self-awareness. Across the US, the number of people practicing Yoga has increased dramatically. A recent survey […]

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Do You Possess These 6 Inspiring Leadership Qualities? Inspiring leadership is increasingly important as evidenced by polls that say a high percentage of today’s workers are disengaged. Some experts lay a portion of the blame on managers who are not cut out to manage people. The wrong manager can sink morale, drive away valuable talent […]

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You’ve probably heard the expression, “In life, it’s not what happens to you that matters, it’s how you respond.” Many of our greatest heroes understood and lived those words. For instance, Nelson Mandela, who didn’t allow years of being jailed to stand in the way of being forgiving, or becoming President of the nation that […]

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During a recent workshop, a participant confessed his lack of empathy – a core dimension of emotional intelligence. He said, “I don’t have any, and I don’t know how to begin to think about feeling the way others do.”  Given the laughter and head nodding from the others in the room, he was not alone. […]

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Looking for A Way to Avoid Telling Someone Where to Go? When I walked into his office, Will’s head was down, his brow looked furrowed, he was breathing deeply and writing furiously. I waited until he finished and asked, “What are you working on?” “I’m writing out my rage!” He smiled, pushed his pad aside […]

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Are you in tune with yourself – your thoughts and feelings?  Do you know what triggers a positive reaction from you?  Do you know what makes you smile or offer an affirming nod?  How about what elicits feelings of compassion, or what compels you to make eye contact that expresses warmth and encouragement? Can you […]

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3 Tips That Will Make You A Better Communicator For just one day, try this challenge. Listen more and talk less. Listen to understand. Listen to learn. Listen to empathize. Listen to validate. Listen to connect. Don’t worry. You won’t become invisible, powerless or less impactful. In fact, you’ll become more visible. You’ll stand out […]

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