Do you allow LIES to limit you? I don’t know anyone who doesn’t.  LIES are labels, illusions, excuses and stories that exist in your mind, just out of awareness.  They shape your thoughts, feelings, decisions and actions.  LIES lead to detours on your path to happiness.  They short-circuit your ability and willingness to change and […]

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Research suggests offices with open floor plans can be satisfying for extraverts who enjoy convenient access to colleagues and find the environment stimulating, while introverts tend to feel less satisfied. Extravert or introvert, here are a several tips that may help you feel more comfortable and be more productive. First, know your personality and acknowledge […]

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In the workplace, and in every part of life, creating and sustaining spaces and places where people, with their differences and similarities, come together peacefully and work together harmoniously, is a real challenge. In your search for solutions, consider meditation. In fact, a specific Buddhist meditation called loving-kindness has had some amazing effects when it […]

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In professional and social settings, being able to recognize a person’s face, recall their name and pronounce it correctly, is an asset. Some people use their formal name over the commonly associated nickname – like Bill for William or Peggy for Margaret. Listen to how others introduce themselves – the name they use and how […]

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Buddha said, “Those who have failed to work toward the truth have missed the purpose of living.” This reminds me to look beyond the story of my limited, personal truth about situations and people. Whether in the workplace or in our private lives, we have to look beyond our limited understanding to see truth. For […]

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Crying can be an indicator of pain, a call for attention, comfort or support, an expression of intense emotion. Crying can also be a way of relieving pressure, letting go of held emotions. Traditionally, crying in the workplace has been taboo, largely due to the long-held belief that tears make you appear weak, vulnerable, emotional, […]

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Where are you right now? Are you driving while your mind is back in your last conversation or thinking about the one you plan to have later? Are you typing an email while your attention is focused on the conversation in the next cubicle? Are you working on a report while imagining how heavy traffic […]

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    “Happiness is in the heart, not in the circumstances.” I found that quote inside the wrapper of a miniature Dove Caramel & Milk Chocolate candy. I read it once, and then again, “Happiness is in the heart, not in the circumstances.” So true. Think about it. Those who are happy show up that […]

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    Once again, research affirms what we know about the benefits of spending time in natural settings. Exposure to green trees, grass, bushes, and flowers, as well as blue spaces – those with still or running water –renews and refreshes us, helps us feel more connected to life. To add nature’s beneficial greens and […]

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  Recently I was sent a link to Erika Anderson’s Forbes article about the “Most Important Reason People Fail In A New Job.” Her answer, in a nutshell: they don’t fit in to the established culture. For some, culture may feel too touchy feely or intangible. But no matter where you work, culture exists. Prescribed […]

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  A regular reader of my weekly newsletter wrote and described what she called her slump. I don’t know about you, but I’ve had more than a few slumps over the course of my life. It’s that period of time where you feel flat, flaccid, and apathetic; your energy is low and motivation is missing. […]

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      When you engage with others, particularly when raising an issue, be clear about the role you want them to play. Knowing what you want, and asking for it, enables others to do a better of job of helping you in just the way you want. For example, you could ask the person […]

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    When interacting across differences – cultural, personal or positional – don’t despair if you blunder. Don’t be hard on yourself. And, above all, don’t give up. Flubs and blunders are a natural consequence of the learning process. As appropriate, make amends and keep moving forward. No, I’m not suggesting that you tell the […]

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  Today, many people who are 65, and over, are still in the workforce, avid volunteers, or otherwise very involved in life. Yet, many traditional measures of age categorize them as old. Researchers at IIASA say, “If you don’t consider people old just because they reached age 65, but instead take into account how long […]

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  What challenges do you face, as you interact with people, day-to-day, at work and at home? What is about the behavior of others that confounds you and drives you nuts? Take a moment; give it thought. If you’re in your workplace, glance around. With whom do you have the most trouble engaging without feeling […]

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    In the workplace, and in our personal lives, we tend to come to conclusions and develop opinions quickly. We get attached to our conception of the matter at hand, believing we have the answer. Our reaction to others’ ideas can convey, “I’m right, you’re wrong.” We can benefit from being less vested in […]

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    To exude personal power and executive presence, insure that your spoken and unspoken messages are congruent. Nonverbal behavior is powerful, so be aware of the story your body tells! Here’s how: First, breath deeply, in a relaxed manner. You’ll feel and look calm and in control. Practice your posture in the mirror. Stand […]

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    Summer vacation is just about over. For many children and adults, this time of year gives us a special opportunity to build on past successes and start anew in areas where change and improvement are needed. Here’s a strategy that can support your growth, and that of the youngsters in your life:  acknowledge […]

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Think back over the last few minutes. What kinds of thoughts have crossed your mind or lingered there? Are they uplifting, encouraging, and helpful? Or are they filled with worry, criticism or judgmentalness? Self-talk, your ongoing, internal dialogue is a powerful tool you can use to advantage. Here’s how: Decide to become aware of the […]

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